Dear 18-year-old me, don't worry - Sex will get better with age. You know what they say, experience and practice come with age? It's very true. There are a few tips I wish I knew when I started having sex. I decided to list them out below...
1. It's about your pleasure too!
Sex is not just about your partner's pleasure, it is about yours as well. Afterall, why should boys have all the fun?
2. It's absolutely okay to masturbate
This is something no one talks about! Ladies, it's absolutely okay to give yourself pleasure.
3. Your body will not look like how they make it look like in movies
Dear young self, stop idolizing the women you see in movies. They have a lot of makeup on. Even they don't look like that in real life. It's okay to have those stretch marks and it's okay to have an uneven skin tone!
4. There is no 'right' age to lose your virginity
People might tell you what the 'right' age to lose your virginity is. But believe me, there is no right age. You lose your virginity when you're ready. Period.
5. You might not have an orgasm each time
It's okay to not reach a climax everytime you have sex. Have fun experimenting with foreplay and different positions, to see what works for you.
6. Two condoms does not mean double protection
Please oh please, do not believe this. Wearing two condoms might just fail both by causing them to break because of friction. One is good enough for protection.
7. It's okay to use lube
Using lubrication does not mean there is something wrong with you. It just helps in easy penetration and gives you a good feeling. Stop telling yourself that there's something wrong with you just because you have to use some extra lubrication.
8. It's okay to say no to sex
I can't stress on this point enough: When you're just not feeling it, do not go along with it. That is when you should say no to it.
9. There will be awkward noises and it happens to all of us!
Other than thumping noises, women queef at times and there is nothing embarrassing about it. Dear young self, it is going to happen and it is a normal thing.
10. Good sexual chemistry does not mean compatibility
Just because you two feel great in bed does not mean that you are compatible. Physical chemistry has got nothing to do with emotional compatibility. Dear young self, take note.