When I was 20, I thought I had finally found the love of my life. My then-boyfriend was everything I wanted in a man. He was witty, caring, kind, and ambitious and you can add a million other adjectives here. Unfortunately, life had other plans and we picked different paths. The breakup was amicable but heartbreaking. We promised to stay on good terms. But then I made a terrible mistake.
A few months after our breakup, I invited him over for dinner on his birthday. For the last three years, we’d celebrated this day together and I thought I was just extending a hand of friendship. One thing led to another and I made the stupid decision of sleeping with him. After working on myself for months, just one night took me back to where I was right after the breakup. I was a sobbing mess the next morning.
And it wasn’t just me. It affected him just as much. After having worked on ourselves for months, this one thing had thrown us back into the past. He said his goodbye and left but I found it hard to get over. My actions led me to believe that I still had very strong feelings for him and was just brushing them aside.
That one night reminded me of all that we had and how it was now gone. I didn’t plan for something like this to happen and honestly, I felt broken all over again. It was tough for both of us ‘coz in an instant, we lost all of our progress.
It took me over a month to dust myself off and get back to my normal life.
There are a few things I learned from this experience. It’s tempting to reach back to an ex. Your plan may be to just have fun while keeping a padlock over your heart, but the most masterful plans sometimes go awry.
It is best to keep some distance from your ex and let them fade away from your life. It is for the best!
As my best friend told me, getting back together with your ex is like taking a shower and wearing back the same clothes. Got it, girlies?
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