8 Important Lessons Only A Breakup Will Teach You

Sharon AlphonsoSharon Alphonso  |  May 6, 2016

Breakups are those bitter chapters in your life that shape you both, mentally and emotionally. Yes, they are hard, and sometimes, they can feel like they’ve shattered your world into tiny tiny pieces. But, while on one hand you may have lost someone you love, on the other, it’s an opportunity to learn lessons that will last you a lifetime!

Here’s a list of 8 important lessons only a breakup will teach you.

1. How to Pick Yourself Up After Hitting Rock Bottom!


Nobody said that this phase will be easy, but we assure you that it will be worthwhile in the long run. This is when you need to learn how to re-build your self esteem. You have to come to terms with the fact that your relationship has ended, and get back to thinking of your life as yours alone, and not just as part of a couple.

You will also begin to understand that apart from family and a handful of close friends, no one is going to have your back, especially not the man who abandoned his relationship with you.

Most importantly, more than your friends and family, YOU need to be there for yourself!

2. Tears Don’t Mean A Thing


How long are you going to cry for? More so, why waste tears on a man who didn’t care that much about you in the first place? You may not understand this immediately after your breakup, but in a couple of months, you will.

Plus, tears won’t result in anything concrete or positive in your life. So dry them off, put on a brave face, and get back to your life and the things you love doing!

3. Friends Can Be Like Family


Your strongest emotional pillars were right in front your eyes, but you were too lovestruck to acknowledge it. Your closest friends are still there for you, ready to smother you with love, affection and support. You let go of them once for a man, don’t do it again …

4. Never Trust Anyone Blindly


Sometimes it’s the people you love and care about most that stab you in the back. After experiencing a breakup, you will learn to keep your distance from some people and also become more cautious about trusting anyone blindly. You will start relying on yourself more and depend less on others to keep you happy.

5. Learn To Accept People For Who They Are


There are many relationships in which one partner is desperately trying to change or improve the other. Let’s be real here, that is not going to happen, so don’t even bother trying. Times change, people don’t. If you love someone, why would you want to change them in the first place?

6. Every Cloud Has A Silver Lining

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Nothing lasts forever, and this too shall pass. The post break-up phase may seem never-ending at first, but rest assured it will pass. This lesson here is a tough one, but things will start falling into place as they did once before. Try and think of this phase as a bad, and painfully long hangover.

7. You Will Be More Mature In Your Next Relationship


The good part about having had a bad relationship in the past is, that you’ll probably be better at the next one. You will be more aware and focused about the things you want from the relationship and also be willing to give your partner the time and space he needs.

8. Family Will Always Be There

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In life, you can choose your friends, your car, your cell phone and pet, but certainly not your family. You were born into their home, and that identity will stick with you forever. More than friends, your family will have your back at all times, financially or emotionally. That’s what breakups do, they teach you the importance of family and their capacity to give you (we hope!) unconditional love and support.

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