There’s no easy way to say this – arranged marriage setups are a tricky business. There are awkward first meets, followed by a series of questions. While some questions make sense because that’s how you would get to know someone, many times, these questions are just bizarre and scary that leave a scar on someone’s mind and soul.
In this article, eight women revealed the strange questions they were asked during the arranged marriage setups, and honestly, some responses broke our hearts. Take a look.
1. “I got married eight years back and got divorced five years ago. Three months back, my family set me up with this man, who very well knew about my past relationships. He literally asked me if I ever had sex during my married life. I mean, do you expect me to stay a virgin, even after getting married?” -Aarushi S
2. “I met this guy through my uncle and in the first meeting, he asked me about my job – which I happily talked about. I also asked him about his job. In the next meeting, however, he demanded that I should share my salary slips and bank account statements. I told him that I was looking for a potential husband and not an Aadhar Card provider. I never asked my uncle to set me up ever again.” -Radhika J
3. “My maasi knew this family for a very long time because they had been neighbors for the last twenty years. We met them at this fancy restaurant and everything went well. We were about to say yes but then this man called me a night before we were supposed to meet and told me that he could not marry me because I didn’t have a father. He felt very ‘sorry’ about it.” -Ishita K
4. “I met a guy through a matrimony website and blocked him within a week because he said he wanted to marry a woman who has a minimum package of ₹25 lakhs. Interestingly, he wasn’t even working himself and entirely survived on his dad’s money.” -Nidhi P
5. “He asked me if I would be wearing ‘modern’ clothing after marriage.” -Anonymous
6. “This man I met through a relative asked me if I would be visiting my parents often after marriage. I naturally said yes. He said, ‘Oho, fir toh kaam nahin chalega’. I told him to fuck off and leave me alone.” -Aditi S
7. “He asked me, during our first conversation on a website, if I would do ‘anything’ about the scars on my hands. I said ‘no’ and blocked him.” -Anonymous
8. “I was talking to this guy last month and during our first conversation, he asked me, ‘Where do you see yourself in 2 years?’ and ‘What do you think about arranged marriage?’ I mean I was so put off. This isn’t an interview. Make small talk first and then ease into the important questions.” –Malibu_Sorbet
Arranged marriages are not only scary but can also affect a woman’s self-esteem with such bizarre questions. Well, as they say, it’s a man’s world and we just living in it.
