Heard of the once-a-week rule? Seth Meyers, a clinical psychologist in an article spoke about the rule of meeting your perspective partner just once a week. He stated that meeting someone you are dating just once a week actually helps form a stronger bond. "When many men and women meet someone they like, they see that person as frequently as possible in the first few weeks. While the drive to want to be with a new partner is understandable, real-world realities often stress such relationships and cause them to end," he stated in his article for the Psychology Daily.
The study basically points out that people often let go of their identity, friends and family when they begin dating someone new. You are so focused on this person that you cancel plans, go out on numerous dates and trap yourself in a little rosy bubble. Which is why restricting the time you two spend together can be beneficial for the relationship. So I asked a few women at the POPxo office if they would restrict the amount of time they spend with someone they have just begun dating, or even their boyfriends for that matter!
Here are the responses five girlfriends shared with me!
"My weekdays are quite exhausting and if I could actually clear them up because of a rule, it would just make it all so much easier. The pressure of meeting your partner every day, even when you are tired and can barely have a conversation, is lifted. I'd rather just call, text or even FaceTime him when I get home. Though I would like to meet him twice, Saturday and Sunday. So technically, two days a week would be perfect."
"My boyfriend and I, we both have different work timings. So if we can get an hour out of the day to just have a cup of coffee, it helps us relax. Spending quality time is so important to us, just seeing him helps me de-stress."
"I have so much I want to do with him! I want to get coffee, dinners, catch movies and even go out with our friends! One day a week barely cuts it, not when you have so many things to do and so little time."
"It's easy to get absorbed into your relationship, especially when you're still getting to know each other. If you know that you are meeting him just once a week, you can make other plans at ease without feeling guilty. It just makes the scheduling much easier and doesn't take away your sense of independence."
"I love the idea that this once-a-week rule could make my relationship better, but I could never actually go through with it. We have the same friends, are often invited to the same parties and when we aren't meeting socially, we're planning a date. So I guess, we've been together too long to detach ourselves now."
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