This story was updated in January 2019.
‘Leave your mark, just leave your mark on me’
If you’ve got a dirty mind, you’ll know exactly which mark Jessie Baylin was referring to. Yes, we’ve all had a heated night of lovemaking after which we woke up with love bites all over. There is just something so intimate and vulnerable about letting your partner mark you in the most basic way.
Hickeys, like most things in life, divide people into two groups with opposing views. However, if you happen to love giving hickeys or if you’ve recently found out that your partner is a fan of the same and actually loves the little marks you leave around their body, we’re here to help you out. From ‘how to give a hickey’ to ‘how to get rid of hickey’, we’ve got it all covered for you. So before you jump into bed, read this to better your skills!
No matter what you choose to call it, at the end of the day, a hickey is a bruise caused by biting, sucking or aggressively kissing the skin, usually around the neck or shoulders. It happens because the sucking of the skin can cause superficial blood vessels, called capillaries, to rupture which makes the blood flow into the surrounding tissue. The size of the bruise actually depends on the trauma on the capillaries, how many were affected and the time it took for the blood to clot. Sounds painful, doesn’t it?
Anyone who has ever gotten a hickey knows that their biggest concern is how long it’ll last, and god knows, it’s there for too long, begging for everyone’s attention! *Wink*
Hickeys are temporary and they rarely leave a permanent scar behind. Since it’s a bruise, it takes its own time to heal, which can range anywhere from 5 to 10 days, depending on the size. Also, initially the mark is blaringly red but as it heals, it turns blue or purple.
Some hickeys, however, may take a longer time to heal. This happens because of two factors. First, if the hickey is too severe and a lot of damage is done to the blood vessels, it’ll take some time for it to completely fade away. Your personal health is the second factor that determines how long the hickey lasts. The healthier you are, the faster it’ll fade since a lack of certain vitamins and iron makes it easier for you to bruise.
Hickeys have always been a controversial subject since some people enjoy giving and receiving hickeys while others are completely against the idea of being marked as if they were somebody else’s property. While we’re undecided about these ‘little marks of love’ here are some reasons why people love ‘love bites’.
Giving a hickey is actually pretty simple if you know what you’re doing. In fact, it can be quite fun to give or receive one, if you’re down for it. But if you’re still confused, let us help you nail the technicalities of it.
Even though the best way to get rid of a hickey is by not getting one, we all get carried away in the heat of the moment. But you can’t turn up at your place with a huge bruise on your neck, obviously. Your mother, who misses nothing, is going to spot it and then all hell will break loose. In another scenario, imagine turning up to work with a huge love mark on your neck completely visible. Neither does it reflect well on you professionally nor does it give you the ‘cool’ feel you were aiming for. Don’t worry, we’ve got this covered too, know how to get rid of hickey a night before.
It may seem like a harmless bruise but it’ll surprise you to know that hickeys can, in reality, be more dangerous than you expected. Here are some lesser-known dangers of this ultimate mark of passion.
It may seem to cool to you to give, or receive, a hickey, your partner needs to be on the same page as you. Some people are not comfortable with a semi-permanent mark on their body. A lot of people see love bites as one partner marking his/her territory and they aren’t on-board with the idea of claiming your partner with something like ‘a mark of love’. This is why it is important to talk to your partner and find out exactly where they stand when it comes to a love bite that THEY will have on THEIR bodies for days to come. Just like any other sexual act, mutual consent is of utmost importance.
While we may be scared to turn up to our workplaces with hickeys, imagine turning up in front of all of the media supporting a hickey and being completely unaffected by that. Yes, a lot of celebrities have stepped out and been photographed with love bites and they looked as cool as cucumbers doing it. Could that also be a reason why so many of us think it’s fun to give our partners hickeys? Or maybe they didn't know how to rid of hickey.
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