Every year, on the first day of the first month, majority of us come up with a set of new year resolutions. But as the year progresses, most of the us falter and are unable to keep up with the resolutions. Work and life obligations cause our plans of becoming a better person to take a backseat. If you really want to change, don’t wait for the new year to make a change. Start right away by figuring out the things to leave behind in 2018 and set the slate clean for the next year. There are plenty of things all the women out there should leave behind even though they may seem like something you can’t live without right now. Remember, sometimes good things have to fall apart so that better things can fall together.
Toxic Relationships
It can’t be truer than what Stephen Chbosky said in The Perks of Being A Wallflower, “You accept the love that you think you deserve.” Until you realise that you deserve better, you will keep settling for less. If he keeps on hurting and ignoring you and refusing to give you the much-deserved attention and respect, it is time to give a close the book on that toxic relationship for good. It is not enough to love someone if you are not getting the same love back from him.
The Job You Hate
Leave behind the job that doesn’t make you want to come to office every morning. Something what doesn’t make you happy doesn’t deserve your time and energy. Also, just because you are obliged to this place or because this is your comfort zone, doesn’t mean you have to be here forever. Understand that this was a chapter in your life and it is time to move on.
Superficial Friends
One of your new year resolutions should be identifying the frenemies and cutting them off your life. These are the friends who make you feel bad about yourself and put you down. Friends should be loving, supporting, kind, and understanding. If you feel that the people you hang out with are not anywhere close to these, it is time to reevaluate your circle.
The Need To Be Perfect
You don’t have to be perfect all the time. Why? Because it is okay to be imperfect. All of us are. Perfection is an illusionary term and can have different meanings to different people. When you try to fit yourself into someone else’s idea of perfection, you lose yourself in the process. As you learn to embrace your imperfections, you find the key to your happiness.
The Need To Prove Yourself Worthy Of Him
Another thing to leave behind in 2018 is the awful habit of trying to impress the men in your life. Ladies, it is not your job to prove him that you are worthy of him. Stop going to insane levels to catch his attention because you are losing your sanity in doing so. When you try too hard to impress him, you make your desperation obvious. Stop being a sucker and estimate your value rather than overestimating his value.
Holding Yourself Back
Tell those voices inside you to STFU because they are telling you lies about who you are and what you are capable of doing. Leave behind all thoughts that hamper your confidence and make you feel you are not good enough.
Letting Down Other Women
Of all things to leave behind in 2018, this is perhaps the most important. If every time you see a woman walking walking down the sidewalk in a miniskirt and you start snickering about her outfit, it is time for you to change the way you look at other women. It is not just about outfits, as a woman it is also time for you to stop being judgmental, especially towards other women. As Ms. Norbury once said in Mean Girls that when women call each other sluts and whores, it just makes it okay for men to call them degrading names.
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