There are a few things in life that are as misunderstood as BDSM (bondage, discipline (or domination), sadism (or submission), masochism). People have all sorts of misinformation about BDSM and often they don’t know how to explore it. There’s a lot more to it than whips, blindfolds, silk ties, and handcuffs.
Four different types of kinks make up the BDSM lifestyle and everyone has their preferences and boundaries. If you are a beginner, then the best way to get started is to explore the bondage kink. You don’t need to invest in fancy toys or devices for this. Moreover, it is easy to set boundaries in bondage. For example, you can decide how tight you want your knots to be.
What Is Bondage?
Bondage sex is a form of BDSM where one person ties up their partner. In BDSM, one partner takes up the dominant role (dom) while the other person embodies the submissive role (sub). In bondage intercourse, the person who is getting tied up is the sub. These roles are exchangeable according to your preferences and moods.
How To Get Started With Bondage Sex
Do A Little Homework
Before you jump the gun, take a step back and get into research mode. Reading about bondage sex will help you to understand what you can try and how to do it. You can even take virtual classes from people within the BDSM community. However, just remember that every dom-sub relationship is different and you have to pick things that work for yours.
Have A Conversation
Before trying out anything new in your sex life, you gotta talk about it. We know it is awkward to have an in-depth discussion about your kinks, but it is a must. Your partner needs to know what they are in for and what all is off-limits. Moreover, you gotta decide who will take up what role. The thumb rule of BDSM is: You will never face doubt if you talk it out.
Figure Out Your Tools
Bondage sex offers a number of tools that can help you to tie your partner or get tied up. The best part is—most of the things that you need for bondage are available at home itself. You can use your stockings, ties, scarves, skipping rope and more for it. In case you want to try a more intense form of bondage, you can check out handcuffs, ropes, wires and similar things.
Setup A Safe Word
Let’s make one thing clear: all BDSM activities are based on consent! A safe word is a designated word you say when sexual play with a partner becomes too intense, painful or uncomfortable. It indicates that you want to take a break from the scene without any confusion. Your safe word can be literally anything—pineapple, Justin Timberlake, sunset, abracadabra!
Start Simple And Work Your Way Up
Don’t forget the old saying ‘Rome wasn’t built in a day’. When it comes to bondage, it is always important to start easy and move forward slowly. This will help to avoid any physical injury to you or to your partner. For example, you can start with blindfolds as they are easy to remove!
The most important thing about bondage sex is trying it out with someone you really trust. You are going to be in a vulnerable position as bondage is all about pushing your boundaries.
Just remember that sex should be fun, even when it hurts a little (wink wink).
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