Sexuality is a spectrum. While we're familiar with terms like asexual, bisexual, and pansexual, a new term in the dictionary might leave you a tad baffled--graysexual. TBH, when we first heard of this term, we thought it revolved around sexual fetishes--you know, we all read 50 Shades of Grey and so we can't help that that was the first thing that popped in our heads. But that’s not it, ladies. Urban Dictionary defines the term 'graysexual' as someone who sometimes has sexual attraction and/or feelings, but not usually. Basically, this person is generally asexual, but is capable of sexual desire in certain circumstances. Neither black nor white. We guess that’s why it’s called being graysexual! Read on to understand this term better.
Now that’s a term you hadn’t heard of, right?
While there is no clear meaning of the term, it can safely be explained as the experience of limited sexual attraction. Either one feels sexual very rarely, and/or when he or she experiences any sort of sexual feeling/desire, it is of very low intensity. Bear in mind that it’s not as simple as someone saying they aren’t in the mood for it in a given moment. It goes deeper than that.
Platonic relationships with friends and family, with no sexual experience or undertones, are relationships that are the deepest and mean the most to graysexuals. And in romantic relationships, sexual chemistry is never a priority or concern. A lot more weightage is given to factors like trust, faith, compatibility and loyalty.
Graysexuality has people valuing and thoroughly enjoying intimate moments like hugging, kissing, cuddling and holding hands. However, it’s not important or desirable for them for this to lead to sex or any sexual urges.
Because of not experiencing much of a sexual desire or urge, graysexuals usually don’t care about a life that is devoid of any sort of sexual activity. As long as their emotional and intellectual desires are taken care of, a graysexual person is usually okay to never have sex again in their lives. This is because having sex isn’t a need or necessity for them.
It may also happen that someone who may initially believe they’re graysexual actually turns out to be demisexual. It is possible that one develops a frequent sexual desire towards someone with whom they have a strong emotional bond after having known them for a long time. In that case, the person is demisexual.
So, what are your thoughts on this new term?
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