A first date always has our stomach in knots and mostly for good reason. But, what if things don’t turn out the way you thought they would? The person who seemed so charming and perfect on texts may not be so in person. Now, the question is, how do you get out of a date when he’s not blowing your socks off and you just aren’t feeling it? Easy, you be an adult about it; instead of excusing yourself to go to the washroom and then leaving, which, by the way, is what a friend of mine always does. So, here’s how to tackle a first date gone wrong!
First things first, don’t stress over the fact that it wasn’t love-at-first sight or that you haven’t fallen in love with them by the end of the date. It is only the first date and it’s fine that things did not fall in place. You’re going to meet a lot of people and you will eventually click with the right person and then everything will be beautiful!
Have a friend and a trusted person ready to call you if things don’t fall in place. Whatsapp them or send them a SOS message to call you and help you get out of the date. This is one of the most foolproof ways to get out of the date. Plus, it doesn’t make you look like a crappy person as well!
Let’s be honest, we’re all adults and we can all handle rejection maturely. If the date isn’t going well, if you want, you can tell them gently that you don’t think taking things further is a great idea. Ghosting them after the date is just juvenile and not appreciated.
A simple line like “I’m sorry but I have to be home in an hour” can effectively end the date without any hard feelings. So go ahead, use simple but effective ways like these to put an end to what is turning out to be an undesirable date.
If the date did not go the way you would have preferred it to, please go your own way. Do not accept a ride back home from them. That just gives the wrong signals.
Here’s the thing. If the person you went on a date with wasn’t completely shitty, you might as well consider giving them a second chance instead of completely writing them off. Sometimes, love takes a little bit of time and instant attraction may just fizzle out as quickly as it flared up.