My work kept me busy most of the time. I was all of 23, balancing my work and personal life, and I had no time to make any new friends or meet old ones. Even dating was nowhere in the picture.
During this phase of my life, I met this guy and over the course of a few months, we became good friends. He was 29 at the time, and his parents were looking to get him married - something I didn’t even give a second thought to. Since we were good friends, he would often tell me about the girls he had met and been with in the past, and this talk never bothered me.
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I definitely saw the positives in him. He was smart, quick-witted and financially independent – but for me, he was just a friend. Besides, he didn’t seem like the romantic kind at all. I, on the other hand, am a true romantic at heart. Thanks to the books I read from this genre, in my head I had painted a pretty picture of my future and had a clear idea of the kind of guy I’d marry some day. This friend of mine was certainly not in that picture.
Meanwhile, both his and my parents made our profiles on matrimonial websites, and began looking for a match. One day, as my friend was surfing one such site, he came across my profile. He shortlisted it just so it wouldn’t show up again and again during his search process. And when his father saw my profile shortlisted, he believed that my friend was keen on getting to know me. His father then started communicating with my family and expressed interest.
My mom seemed interested too. When I realized what was going on, I was highly confused. Yes, I liked him a lot, but maybe not for marriage. I always wanted to fall in love with the guy I would marry, and I knew neither of us had such feelings for the other.
I called him immediately and told him what had been going on. Surprisingly, he was very relaxed about this and told me to go with the flow. “Do you have any issues with marrying me,” he asked, to which I had no reply. I guess I saw no harm in that.
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Within 10 days of this, our marriage date was fixed. All of this was happening very fast, and we both just went with it. It was then that we actually started to see each other in a different light. After all, we were going to be husband and wife in another 6 months! He was not romantic at all, but he cared for me more than I had expected. I saw the world differently with him, and gradually began to like everything about him.
It was then I realized I had fallen for the guy I was about to marry. :-)
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Published on Aug 30, 2016