When my sister got engaged last year in an arranged marriage set-up, her happiness knew no bounds. Not only because she had found the perfect guy, but because both of them would get six months before the wedding to get to know each other better. Till date my sister and her now husband thank their families for picking a wedding date that was a good amount of time after their engagement. The long courtship period helped them understand each other better, develop a bond and be better prepared for their new journey together. But these are not the only advantages of a long courtship. All of you who have seen the Shahid Kapoor-Amrita Rao starrer Vivaah will understand what I’m talking about!!! Read on to find out more:
1. Friendship first
The biggest advantage of a long courtship is that it helps your relationship grow gradually. You have enough time to get to know each other and develop a friendship. This helps your bond grow stronger over time. And how can we forget? Pyaar dosti hai, after all!
2. Gives romance a good chance to blossom
You become friends first, and as soon as you start understanding and getting to know each other, love blossoms. It is a special time, really! It gives your relationship time to grow!
3. Plenty of time to discuss everything
Yes, that’s another good point. Your wedding is one of the most special occasions of your life and you really want it to be perfect. A long courtship gives you a chance to discuss and decide all that you want your D-Day to be like as well as your marriage. Just like you have some wishes for your big day, your fiance does too! So, it gives you both time to discuss and ensure you’re both on the same page.
4. A good test of compatibility
Nobody is perfect, everybody has flaws. But, a marriage means learning to cope and cooperate with each other’s flaws and good qualities alike. A long courtship helps you understand the level of compatibility you share with each other. It also helps you come up with strategies to avoid fights and teaches you how to resolve them whenever they do occur.
5. Gives you enough time to arrange your dream wedding
Yep, yep, yep! Outfits, venue, favours, food, honeymoon – oh there’s so much to decide! Of course, you need time for it!
6. You make memories!
You go out on dates, talk to each other through the night and do all those cutesy things that Bollywood has taught us. But hey, at the end of the day you realise how many memories you made for a lifetime!
7. Gives you a chance to change your decision, if needed!
It can happen that you do not get along very well with your fiance and realise that he’s maybe not the right guy for you. A long courtship gives you time to reconsider and change your decision before taking such a life-changing step.
So, convinced yet?
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