Over the years, romantic books and movies have tried to convince us that love should not have any expectations attached to it. But when it comes to real life, it doesn’t work that way, does it? And really, it’s okay as long as those expectations are not over the top and you take your partner into confidence. Here are 10 things it’s okay to expect in a relationship, girls!
1. Total and complete loyalty
Loyalty is the cornerstone of any relationship and there is no reason good enough to flout this rule. Loyalty doesn’t only mean not cheating (physically or emotionally), it also means being committed to each other and your relationship even when you are having a tough time and it feels easier to let go.
2. Respect… For yourself and your choice of career
Love cannot survive without respect. It is not just okay, but it’s important that you expect your man to respect you and your career choices, irrespective of whether he finds them interesting or not. After all, your passion is as important as his.
3. Some alone time…
Totally! Because everyone needs some me-time once in a while. Just because you are in a relationship, it does not mean that you have to be together 24×7. It’s okay to want to be alone. Talk to your guy about this and if he is a true gentleman, he will understand.
4. …And some quality time with him
No relationship can survive without the investment of time. Sure, you might be busy with your schedule and he might have his own to-do list. Nevertheless, it’s okay to expect him to take some time out especially and exclusively for you.
5. Sharing the load
You shouldn’t have to do all the work in your relationship. Whether it’s running errands, making plans or managing expenses… It should always be an equal split. And ladies, you never have to feel guilty about this one.
6. A cute surprise once in a while
It doesn’t have to be a grand surprise. It can be something as simple as a cute note on your mirror or a rose or a surprise breakfast date. After all, you deserve to feel extra loved sometimes!
7. His undivided attention when you are in a pickle
It’s totally okay to expect him to be all ears when you need him to listen to you or when you are seeking advice about something important. You guys are a unit and it’s only fair that the other is available and around when one is in a pickle.
8. For him to have your back when no one else does
There will be times when you will feel like you are fighting the whole world alone and in times such as this, your partner needs to have your back. Even if he thinks that you are on the wrong track, he should express his opinion in private but have your back anyway!
9. To feel special on special occasions
Your birthday, Valentine’s day, your anniversary… It’s okay to expect him to make a loving gesture (because we are sure you will make one too!) on special days. Everyone deserves some pampering, don’t they?
10. Genuine, deep, fuzzy, warm, stupid kinda love
Because that’s the best and the forever kind of love. *Heart*
