Dating can be tricky! Sometimes we all wish there was a way to avoid the first date hassle and find the right match without any stress. What if we were to tell you, there is one style of dating that is time-savvy, interesting and chill? It’s called speed dating and…As the name suggests, this style of courtship is all about efficiency!
Speed Dating means meeting new people in an informal environment. However, there is a catch! Firstly you have to register for a speed dating event. Then, you are given a few minutes, typically 5 minutes, to speak with your date. After which you’ll change spots to talk to someone else. This helps the participant meet a larger number of people in a short duration of time.
The best part about speed dating is that you are under no obligation to stretch a date if you are not feeling a connection! Only if you vibe with a person, you can exchange contact details and then go on a proper date.
If you are planning to try out speed dating, there are a few things that you need to keep in mind.
It is always better to know exactly what you want out of a speed dating event. So, before starting the process, take your time to figure out what you are looking for?
Chances are you won’t click with people right away…After all, good things come to those who wait! Speed dating is a journey that might not end the way you had hoped. It is a matter of chance, so keep calm and carry on.
Yes, you will get rejected and that’s okay! People tend to avoid speed dating as they are worried about facing rejection, but the truth is you can’t vibe with everyone you meet. As supermodel Dita Von Teese once said, “You can be the ripest, juiciest peach in the world, and there’s still going to be somebody who hates peaches.” At least in speed dating, you’ll avoid the risk of getting ghosted!
During a speed dating event, all you’ll get is 5 minutes or less so make them count. Focus on the person you’re talking with, not on the impression you’re making. Ask them questions to show that you are interested. This will help you to keep the conversation flowing.
Don’t try to be someone you are not! Speed dating is about picking a person who is right for you, not turning into someone else. Sure, it sounds tempting to act differently for a short while, but that’s dishonest. Your biggest superpower is that no one is you! So, just be your authentic self and enjoy the process.
When it comes to speed dating, the most important thing is keeping your mind open. Don’t treat the event like a work interview. Avoid dull questions like, ‘Where do you see yourself in 5 years?’ Instead ask fun questions about their likes and dislikes, hobbies and more.
Ahh…So here comes the tough part in speed dating — asking the first question. Here are a few icebreaker questions that work like a charm: If you had your own talk show, who would your first guest be? What’s one place you have no interest in travelling to? If you could choose to remain an age forever, what age would you choose? If you had to spend a day like a fish or a bird, which would you choose?
So fam, are you ready to try out speed dating?
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