What is the biggest fear that people have when it comes to online dating? It is the dread of being lied to or getting catfished. If you too share that fear, we don’t blame you! After all, you’ve always gotta be extra careful, right? We’re here to help you navigate the world of online dating, and to look out for the warning signs of catfishing!
Before we talk about the signs of being catfished, let’s understand what this term means in the virtual dating world. Catfishing refers to a situation wherein a person lies about who they are on an online platform. It is a bit like an online scam!
There are many ways in which a person can catfish you – it can be using fake pictures to create a fraudulent online persona or using bogus details about their life. Unfortunately, catfishing is quite common in the world of online dating.
A catfish may attempt to con the victims by emotionally manipulating them or using sensitive data to blackmail them. It can be a traumatic experience for the victim!
It’s important to be extra careful when connecting with new people. Luckily there are a few ways in which you can recognize the signs of getting catfished. Take a look:
With tons of apps available for video calls, there is no reason to not video chat! However, a catfish will always make excuses when it comes to talking over a video call. They know that online video calling would expose them as a fraud. So, if your online bae avoids every opportunity to video call you then remember that it is shady AF.
A person who is trying to trick you won’t take it slow! A healthy relationship takes time and effort but if you are being catfished, then it won’t be the case. They might even drop the L-bomb in just a few days to win your trust.
He is handsome, rich, well-educated and has the same interests as you—sounds perfect? Or is he too good to be true? Most catfish stories start with the “perfect” guy! Now we are not saying that such guys don’t exist IRL but it won’t harm you to do a bit of research about the man you are talking to.
The biggest red flag of ’em all! You won’t be able to find much about them online. Despite having a social media presence, their posts are vague and inconsistent. There are no tagged photos, no family/friends pictures or even an Insta story about it. Nothing gets uploaded in real-time and you have no idea about their job, education or past relationships!
An easy giveaway? Professional photos! Any online profile that only has professional pictures like a perfect headshot or airbrushed snaps is a massive red flag. While most of us have different sorts of pictures on our account, a catfish account only has retouched pictures.
This is the most obvious sign! There is no reason you should be sending money to someone you’ve never met IRL or you’ve never seen on video chat. We know it can be tough to turn down someone you are interested in, but it is for your own good.
In case you are sus about your online date, then try to cross-question them about the information you have. Get them to talk about their schooling, childhood, family and more. If you feel that their stories are not adding up, then it is not a good sign!
When it comes to online dating, just remember to trust your gut above all. Don’t be afraid of asking for help from friends and family (or even the police) in case you get catfished!
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