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Don’t Need No Man Or Machine: How To Pleasure Yourself Without Using A Dildo

Arya Khanna  |  Aug 21, 2019
Don’t Need No Man Or Machine: How To Pleasure Yourself Without Using A Dildo

Female masturbation is still a taboo and I for one don’t understand it at all. Why should we be ashamed of something that not only feels really (really) great but has many health benefits too? Masturbation helps you sleep better, relieve stress and just get in touch with your body. Even your sex life will be more fun once you start masturbating cause that’s how you know what gets you hot and bothered. Only when you know exactly what you like can you guide your partner to take you to the ultimate pleasure point. 

So sit back and let us tell you the seven steps to feel ooh-aah-so-damn good.

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Give self-love a new meaning by really understanding what your body needs and trust us, your fingers are good enough for all the stimulation you need. 

Find A Safe Place

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Remember the scene in American Pie when the grandmother walks in on her grandson masturbating and gets so shocked that she gets a heart attack and dies? Well, we don’t want that situation to occur even remotely IRL. So finding a safe place where it’s just you and your thoughts is essential. Get on the bed or slip into the bathroom for some jet spray action and feel absolutely comfortable.

Think Of Something Sex-Sex-Sexy

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What’s the sexiest thing you can think of? A steamy make-out session with your favourite celebrity, a fantasy hook up with your crush–it could even be the part you loved in Fifty Shades Of Grey, or a particularly hot scene from a film. Anything that gets you there. If your imagination doesn’t run wild then female-friendly porn or even online erotica to get you in the mood. 

Erogenous Zones Are Your Best Friends

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Start with your neck, feel your breasts, play with your nipples and get in the mood. Thinking about a steamy encounter you shared with someone, plus feeling your body will all make you reach a point where you can feel some wetness between your legs.

Get To The Good Stuff…

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Get warmed up by cupping your labia or vulva, which will make you feel warm (and incredible) from inside. Start rubbing the outside and explore the area as much as you can. When you do, you’ll understand which spot feels the best to touch but trust me, it all feels pretty darn good. Take your fantasy further, give your breasts attention in the middle and increase the excitement slowly. If you feel like you need it, use some lubricant to help you get there too.

Delve Deeper

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Many girls can’t get off just by clitoral stimulation and need a little penetration to get themselves there. So, we encourage you to delve deeper and explore further. Find your vaginal opening and finger yourself slowly. Everyone’s body is different and you will have to explore as much as you can to find what works for you. Clitoral stimulation can seem a bit much at first because it has 8,000 nerve endings which makes it one of the most erogenous spots in the female body. So slowly feel closer to your body and give in to all that pleasure.

Rub Rub And Rub Some More

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Once you’ve found the clit you’ve got to start rubbing it. Experiment with different techniques of stroking, rubbing, circular motions to see what works best for you. You can also keep switching between all these to take yourself to the point of the highest pleasure. Slow things down then speed them up, then rub up and down, it’s your body and your ‘me time’. 

Oohhhh-Aaahhh-rgasm

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The entire world is shut out, it’s just you reaching the crescendo of pleasure and it feels like fireworks. Though an orgasm can feel different for different women, most feel an overwhelming pressure building up in their lower abdomen and then you burst. There can be many ways of reaching this point- clitoral stimulation, g spot stimulation, both together, exploring the anal hole and so much more. It depends on how much you experiment and what your body likes. 

Wait, you’re still here? No no… get into your self-love mode, now! BRB, my room will be locked for a while.

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