Relationships are not easy, especially when you’re trying to head for a serious one. But certain things are non-negotiable when you’re looking to be in a long-lasting relationship with your guy. While everyone and their respective relationships with people differ by leaps and bounds, some habits and characteristics never allow you to be the best version of yourself.
Though none of us can always be perfect, some relationship mistakes we make end up impacting us for life.
So, here are a few things you should refrain from doing if you want to not ruin your chances!
1. Making It All About Yourself
Whether it's during a fight or general day-to-day life - making a relationship all about your expectations and hopes isn’t the right way to go about things. You're in it together! Let it be about your partner as much as it is about you.
2. Holding Grudges
Holding onto negative things or past fights has never really gotten anyone too far. And you won’t be an exception if you succumb to this too. Yes, its easier said than done, we admit. Uncomfortable situations from the past often crop up when fights occur, but bringing it up again is a complete no-no. Bury the issue once you have dealt with it and move past!
3. Unnecessary Jealousy Or Insecurity
Being jealous or insecure isn't always a bad thing. In fact, sometimes it’s even a good thing. It keeps us on our toes a little bit and restricts us from taking our partners for granted. However, there is a line one must not cross. When jealousy begins to stem from from a place of mistrust on your partner, there is something wrong. Talk about it with your partner rather than acting out in passive-aggressive ways to deal with it!
4. Always Assuming The Worst
Doubting someone you are with or want to be with about everything, needless to say, will kill your relationship. If you choose to be with someone, make sure it is someone you trust! Always anticipating the worst and thinking negatively about everything the other person does is bound to sabotage your relationship with them.
5. Fighting Over Absolutely Nothing
There are times when you don’t even know what the issue really is, yet you’re fighting. You’re in the middle of a fight and you can’t even remember who started it or why! These fights are pointless and need to be stopped as soon as you realise you’re in one. They slowly but surely make you grow apart as people. And for nothing too!
6. Trying To Change Everything About The Other Person
Trying to change someone to be your version of “perfect” is in the least, unfair. This will not only drive them away, but will prevent the both of you from looking at the relationship as a long-lasting or serious one.
7. Being Overly Sensitive
Yes, we know that when you like someone (or possibly even love them) everything that they say or do affects you slightly more than if someone else had done or said it. Taking everything to heart, however, and minding everything the other person does is far from ideal. After all, you don’t want someone you are or want to be with to walk on their tiptoes around you!
8. Not Communicating Honestly
Whether it is about how you feel about them, what you think about their behaviour towards you or anything else, be honest and open in your communication. This is sure to keep you going strong and help build a successful relationship.
9. Behaving Overly Possessive
No, ladies, you won’t be happy if they started hovering over you each time you spoke to another guy, or chose to go for a movie or night-out with your friends without them. You had people in your life before he came along, as did he. So, offer him the same courtesy. He is his own person after all, no?
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