It has been almost 10 years since I have been sexually active and I can tell you this: Sex is one activity that you understand over time, it gets better with practice. Having a good sex life is great for you mentally and physically. Sex releases endorphins, which in turn, make you very happy. Orgasms help you sleep better and release stress and tension. But just like anyone else, I too was absolutely clueless during my first time. The second time was better and the third was definitely better than that. Knowing what to do in bed is really a no-brainer. You just have to go with the flow and experience the pleasure when it comes.
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When I was 19, I had my first conversation about sex with my best friend. It was her second time and it wasn’t her best experience. She kept complaining about pain despite having a smooth first time. Sex can be a little painful for first-timers but it gets better during the second time. I wanted to understand her problem. And then I did: It was a lack of lubrication. Just like men, women have a natural way of ‘being wet’. It is totally normal for vaginas to be a little wet at all times. The walls of your cervix create natural mucus (usually white or transparent) that is known to naturally clean your vagina. However, when you’re turned on, your body creates some extra lubrication to prepare you for any kind of penetration. However, on some days, your vagina does not produce enough lubrication and it might be a little dry and uncomfortable. And some women, in general, suffer from a case of a dry vagina. Ladies, if you ever find yourself in this situation, don’t worry. It is common and absolutely natural.
There are a lot of factors that result in decreased lubrication. Some of the reasons are as simple as not drinking enough water. We understand that it can be a little frustrating but we have an easy recipe: A lubricant. You have a lot of variety when it comes to picking the right lubricant for yourself. There are different brands, flavours and even sensations that you can pick from for that extra zing.
The myth is that lubrication causes a ‘problem’ during sex. However, lubrication is actually a good way to stimulate great sex. It helps things move smoothly and swiftly down there without leaving you feeling sore after. When you use it right, you can experience multiple orgasms without any discomfort. It enables you to make the most of the intercourse. Not just that, you enjoy sex more and can focus on experimenting a little. You may hear people talk about different kinds of ‘natural’ lubricants. From Vaseline to saliva, there are tons of things that people might recommend. While they all work to an extent, the lubricants that you get in the market are the best. You just need a pea-sized amount to ensure a smooth, pain-free sesh. So, ladies, shake hands with your new-found friend and experience a sex life like never before. I promise you will not regret this!
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