No matter what part of the world you are in, there are certain age-old stereotypes that are consistent everywhere. Take, for instance, how men are always seen as the breadwinners while women are expected to take care of the home. Now, of course, times have changed, and these stereotypes have had a major glow-up. Women are shattering old notions by not only managing households but also stepping out into the world to provide for their families. However, a woman earning more than her partner is still a concept that people need to make peace with. Recently, I went through several Reddit threads where women who earn more than their husbands revealed their stories, and honestly, they are so refreshing!
1. Wife Earns More Than I & I Like It
“I’m a doctor and my partner earns significantly more than I do as she is in software. Honestly it’s sad sometimes cause of the amount I had to study to earn as much as I do and the way she works from home and makes more than me. We joke about it sometimes but other than that it’s been great. We keep her salary aside only for savings and EMIs and mine for running the house and paying bills. So at any given time you look at the bank balance and in comparison I look poor.
This has never come in between us and we respect each other a lot. We consider the money we earn as our money and there has never been a distinction. As long as you and your partner are in a space of mutual respect and understanding, who earns more doesn’t matter. Only need to work out the financials and plan expenses accordingly, like who pays for what and how do we save etc. (compared to the traditional man earns and women cooks sort of thinking our parents had).“
2. He Likes To Keep The House Clean
“My husband can’t work due to mental health issues, and I’m the one earning our money. So all of our money comes from my wage, he doesn’t have any income. It’s alright. We decided on that early on in our relationship, and it has been like that forever. Good for our wellbeing, and he does all the household stuff so that I can fully relax when I’m at home. He’s happy keeping everything clean, tidy and so on. The only effect this has on our relationship is: Sometimes strangers think it’s weird (and I don’t care), he’s more happy, there aren’t stress related confrontations and we’re living in a clean nice looking flat. All good. We don’t value a persons worth depending on their job.”
3. End Goal Is To Make Money Together
“I’m finishing up some school without any employment right now. I’m grateful for my fiance that takes care of rent and groceries. I never gave much thought of the implications of her as the “breadwinner”. I figure the end goal is to make money together, not make more than one another. But while she provides financial stability right now, I take care of a lot of what I refer to as “family maintenance”. I feel very useful to our relationship in that sense because I’m the only one capable of it right now. So I guess what I’m saying is you should both value what you and your partner bring to the table in your various forms of work and compensation. Teamwork!“
4. We Both Live Comfortably
“I’m super lucky that that’s never been an issue (to my knowledge). My SO has never asked for money or taken advantage of it, but he doesn’t argue if I foot an extra bill or expense or make a fuss over it. We both have ambitions and are both early in our careers (relatively speaking)- it just so happens that my current line of work has higher compensation than his, when not long ago, it was the other way around. But neither of us are planning to stay long-term in our current positions, either. Maybe he’ll make more than me again soon. Who knows, who cares. We both live comfortably and within our means as it is.“
5. It’s Not A Big Deal
“I’ve always made more money than my husband. Not by a huge margin, but just about our entire marriage (26 years next week). Neither of us cares. Like, what kind of person would I be if I held that over my spouse’s head that my job brings in more money? What kind of person would he be? All our money goes into one pot. We pay our bills with that money, we buy presents for each other with that money. Neither of us feels any kind of way about it. We each have small amounts of “fun money” that we can spend how we want without talking to the other. It’s not a big deal, seriously.“
6. It’s Not A Problem At All
“My income is 3-4 times higher and this is not a problem at all. Like someone else in this thread, I don’t value money and I’d rather pay more and enjoy myself. On the other hand, my SO is thrifty and a big saver, so it’s a perfect combination with him tempering my spending impulses and me providing the funds for our regular outings and activities. It will be interesting to see what happens in the next few months, as I am buying a house for the both of us and we’ll be sharing household expenses.“
7. He’s Super Proud Of Me
“I make more than my husband. He’s fine with it. He was super proud and has been extremely supportive since I earned this position. Our finances are separate. He’s traditionally paid the majority of the bills and my money was used for groceries and our fun money. We joke about me being his sugar mama. I often will give him extra cash just so he has some if he wants it since the majority of his checks pay our rent and utilities.“
Well, these stories legit made me happy. It’s so refreshing to see people finally accepting the change!
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