Most people love the idea of role-playing but don’t know how to suggest it to their partner. In other words, a role-play conversation can sometimes get awkward. While we may get a lot of advice on how to have better sex or tips on how to have multiple orgasms, we sometimes need practical information. Well, mostly! So, in today’s lesson on how to have a great time in bed, we have listed some easy-peasy ways on how to initiate a role-play session with your partner without things getting awkward.
Role-plays give you a chance to fulfil your wildest fantasies by pretending to be someone else for a few hours. This can include acting like someone or dressing up to fulfil a certain fantasy. Most people love role-plays but have their inhibitions before trying it. If you love the idea of it and want to try it, here are some tried and tested tips that will come in handy for sure.
A lot of people get stuck on the first step because they don’t know what fantasy they want to play out. If you’re shy to talk about it then it’s best to talk about your fantasy indirectly. Say things like “Oh! You’d look great in that costume” or “you know what turns me on? A doctor’s robe”. If you can’t say it in person, then drop a text! Communication is the golden rule no matter what sexual fantasy you want to experiment with. The mode of communication is up to you.
So what if you are shy of pretending to be someone else? You can be yourself and act as if you’re meeting your partner for the first time, say, in a bar. The role-plays where you pretend to not know each other are the best ones! In fact, you can actually go to a bar and talk like you’ve never met before. This will totally ease down the pressure of being someone else and make you more confident about role-playing the next time you’re at it.
Communication is the ground rule when it comes to relationships. And it is just as important with sex and sexual fantasies. So, if you have an out of the blue idea that you want to talk about, go ahead. Don’t worry about it sounding weird because when it comes to fantasies, absolutely nothing is weird. Fantasies are not real. They are made up in your head. P.S. Your partner might just appreciate you for being vocal of your needs. Role-playing is a great way to explore your subconscious mind, provided you are in a safe place. So, if you want to be a nurse or a doctor or want your partner to be one, your fantasies are a place where you’re free to be anything you like.
Yes, you can! From using words to seduce your partner to getting props in the picture or disguising as someone, your fantasies can look like absolutely anything. Don’t get caught up in doing something perfectly. Most people cannot be good in the bedroom under pressure. It is important to let go and be in the moment. Believe that there is no end to role-playing whatsoever. Which there isn’t.
At the same time, it is important to set your limits while you’re at it to make sure you are having fun. Talk to your partner about the things that bother you, the things you don’t want to experiment and try to understand the things that your partner is concerned about too. Make sure you have this conversation ahead of the play.
Shake it off and know that you are just playing a part. This is not you and that is not your partner. No one is judging your acting ability so, there is no need to feel pressured. If something doesn’t go as planned, improvise or let it go. It’s better to laugh off such a situation as it makes you feel more comfortable with your partner. After your role-play session, talk to your partner about how it went. Tell them what you liked and did not like it. This will make it easier for you to explore more the next time.
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