The thing that I don’t need to tell you is that life is uncertain right now. Well, life is always uncertain and we’re always just a moment away from something terrible or something fantastic happening. However, these days that unpredictability seems to be staring right at us through numbers skyrocketing in terms of the death toll, countries going under lockdown for an unlimited period of time and us not knowing if/when things will go back to the way they were.
In the midst of this coronavirus pandemic, if you were to be getting married then I’m sending you loads of love. I understand how much effort goes into planning a wedding and also being excited about living with your bae. Postponed shaadi plans can cause a lot of anxiety and we’re here to help you cope in the best possible way.
From breathing exercises and yoga to a lifestyle change to incorporate healthy habits, here are some things that may calm you down.
The best thing you can do when you’re feeling extremely anxious is to concentrate on your breathing. Take three counts in and six counts out and just try and relax every muscle of your body. If you do this first thing in the morning or before sleep you may feel a whole lot better.
Often we’re told to smile, be happy and be cheerful even if we aren’t feeling it. This leads us to bottling up our emotions and not feeling how we really want to. Cry it out, sulk for a while and tell yourself that it’s okay to feel blue. You had to postpone your wedding, the world seems like a scary place and that’s a lot for anyone to take.
Working out and stretching your body has proved to be an excellent way of dealing with anxiety. Exercising releases endorphins or happy hormones in the body so even chemically you feel more recharged and better. If a whole workout isn’t possible, just walk around the house for fifteen minutes with the music on.
Don’t shut yourself from people who love you. They want to be there for you so reach out and ask for help. Your partner is probably going through the same emotional turmoil as you so he would understand you.
Fill your day with activities that you love doing- be it crafts, or cooking and baking or journaling and singing. Shut your door and just let yourself be. Dance around, eat delicious food and give yourself a break from everything.
Being on social media can stir up anxiety about the cancelled wedding cause you’ll constantly be thinking about what could have been. I suggest that for a couple of days or more take a break from Instagram, Twitter, and Facebook and live in reality rather than virtually.
Having a routine, having a hygienic sleep cycle, maintaining personal hygiene by washing your hands and staying indoors is in your control, the world outside isn’t. Focus on calming yourself down today and don’t let the uncertainty of tomorrow weigh you down.
If you feel like it’s all getting too much and you can’t seem to handle it on your own then seeing someone is not a bad idea. A therapist can help you navigate through your feelings and can advise you on healthy coping mechanisms. To maintain social distancing, therapists are taking appointments on Zoom and Skype so it’s not much of a hassle.
Brides, your day will come, hold on to your horses. We’re here with you.