Recently, a Twitter thread where men have excitedly expressed how they hate their girlfriends went viral. The replies on the original post are so disgusting and crass, that they’ll have you wondering whether they’re made up or in fact, real. But, from what we’ve gathered, they are in fact very real, and that only makes the situation worse. Because the posts are overflowing with misogyny. So, we’ve curated responses from women who’ve expressed how the thread has made them feel.
Take a look:
1. “Reading these tweets has made me question so many things. I can’t help but wonder about the emotional abuse the women at the receiving end would be facing; I’m asking the obvious question – why can’t they just break up?”
– Anonymous
2. “I think a lot of men cannot comprehend the fact that women do not NEED them. Now that they’re beginning to lose a lot of their control over the women around them, they cannot deal with it. The hate shows, which is not just sad, but very scary. Sure, ‘not all men’, but enough men around me have shown me signs of misogyny – of course, that makes me not trust ALL MEN. This thread is proof that men have never liked the idea of women being their own person. Men need women, and they try so hard to prove otherwise.”
– Manya Ailawadi
3. “TBH, it’s not even funny, it’s just sad. These men seem desperate, commitment-phobic, and insecure. They probably loathe their entire existence. Their way of dealing with their emotional incapacities is hating on their girlfriends for KNOWING what they want in their relationships cos they don’t know shiz.”
– Anonymous
4. “This is such a triggering thread. I reckon the men that participated in it are absolute jerks.”
– Ira
5. “Yes, I agree, falling out of love is natural and can happen in any relationship. I also agree that breaking up is sometimes not as simple as it may seem. But when a guy reaches a point where he can’t stand his girlfriend to the extent he starts despising her, the least he can do is stay respectful and handle the situation maturely instead of starting or taking part in a Twitter thread and spreading ‘hatred.’ It’s not only deeply problematic but comes off as misogynistic too.”
– Vedika
6. “We’ve all heard, read about and experienced to some extent how so many men have trouble with processing their emotions. But when a lack of emotional intelligence or lack of capacity to handle one’s emotions turns so dark, hateful and misogynistic, it’s almost beyond repair (unless of course, a person wants to work on healing themselves). I feel scared and honestly, disgusted to co-exist with men who think like this. How long will we keep showing compassion to men who clearly need therapy or some kind of external help and are partaking in a damaging culture to express their poor conditioning or trauma? Women are suffering because of men who carry so much bitterness in their hearts.”
– Harshita Singh
7. “The trend has made me feel afraid and wary of men around me. I knew men don’t like women but this Twitter thread proves that there are also men who actually hate women to their bones. There’s a fine line between hate and dislike and this thread shows exactly that and that’s where the misogyny lies. Men are so afraid of the existence of a woman that they go to any lengths. This trend has made me think if men hate women so much, especially the women they are in a relationship with, why don’t they break up? They are going to great lengths to make sure they get to the heads of a woman and toy with them just to derive sadistic pleasure from it. On some level, I feel that men choose to be in a relationship despite hating women because they see them as trophies that can solidify their position as the alpha male of the group.”
– Anonymous
8. “It’s always easier to project onto someone else instead of seeing that you might be the problem. I think some children aren’t taught emotional or relationship skills at a young age. Many boys grow up to become men who are entitled, avoidant, dismissive, and emotionally detached. A girlfriend to these men is only good so long as she is sexualized, happy, and compliant, and they become disappointed or frustrated when she expresses any of her own needs, wants, and boundaries that differ from these men. She never truly becomes a partner to them. Sadly, such men are unlikely to change unless they get to a point on their own where they really want to change.”
9. “Why on earth would someone go out of their way to cause people such intentional pain? Why stay in a relationship so you don’t seem like the ‘Bad guy’ when you are hurting another person? It makes me physically sick to know I myself wasted a year (2.5-year relationship) on feeling hated in a relationship with someone.”
10. “This is real. These kinds of men will show you they hate you before they tell you, take the hint. I didn’t and it cost me a lot.”
The entire thread reeks of misogyny.
