It’s not like navigating relationships was never not complex. But, with the incoming of social media and the over-romanticisation of romance as a concept, there are expectations that remain unsaid, and healthy communication is only theoretical. We’re labelling relationships as GOALS online and chasing the same for ourselves without wanting to dive beneath the surface, behind the picture, into reality.
An X user, by the handle @datchughuy, enquired of controversial opinions on dating, and people scripted their unfiltered thoughts, which often remain overlooked in today’s relationships. Take a look at some of them:
We are still individuals outside of our relationship. We don't have to be together every second of everyday. Go see your friends and touch some grass. https://t.co/FN70EjwdO4
— The Godmother (@Kamogelo_MN) October 16, 2023
Dating is not meant to last: It either ends in marriage or it ends. Long, conflict-avoidant relationships that are dragged out in lukewarm confusion and kept for the sake of comfort rarely have happy endings. Be decisive, be wise, be serious, don’t rush, and have eyes wide open. https://t.co/MkVax1bGkS
— Sherry (@SchrodingrsBrat) October 12, 2023
Modern dating is just about filling the void of loneliness we feel as the weekend approaches. You get more matches around thu/fri i wonder why.
— UnoDosStress3.0 🏳️🌈 (@UnoDoStress27) October 13, 2023
Nobody wants to be alone, everybody is in a toxic cycle of wanting to be validated and then leaving the other before they leave you. https://t.co/MTUhZu82m1
Admit it or not, financial stability plays a crucial role in dating. https://t.co/2Ik0Hj4y5R
— miro (@mirorglr) October 12, 2023
Healthy relationships are mutually rewarding and beneficial. You give and you get.
— Jen (@its_jendoe) October 12, 2023
There’s no unconditional love in a romantic relationship, whether you realize it or not, love is transactional. It will forever be based on reciprocity and needs. https://t.co/uuiIZ7huP2
using your partner as your only source of emotional support makes a relationship unhealthy very fast https://t.co/tsTl22Ck8w
— Nyxie🌙💜 (@nyxiena) October 12, 2023
It’s perfectly normal to take 6 months to a year before making it official cuz ppl don’t reveal their true selves until they get comfortable. https://t.co/kSDaC3S7cR
— B… (@branmattic) October 11, 2023
Cohabitation is the most important phase of dating https://t.co/lU486FQpMO
— Sir Dickson (@Wizarab10) October 11, 2023
HEAL before you date so you don’t hurt someone who ain’t do shit to you ! https://t.co/uiCc9QZi3r
— Neyo (@BigNeyogems) October 12, 2023
Social media has made us so delusional about the number of options we have and that distracts of from focusing on and committing to the person in front of us. Even if we find someone compatible, we can’t win because we’re distracted by the prospect of someone better coming along. https://t.co/GJsU5dvGSS
— The President (@AshleyMakgatho) October 12, 2023
the longer you’re single, the harder dating pple gets. https://t.co/qnI2nGx2ml
— BIG DADDY (@bigdaddyvinz) October 10, 2023
There is no “ the one “ there are a lot of “the ones” you just spend your whole life falling in and out of love with different people https://t.co/CdyWrM6jEM
— houseplant (@bhakklavdey) October 12, 2023
Love is overrated, and people can find happiness without romantic relationships. https://t.co/JEaS8U2Myy
— TM (@ThaarshDGAF) October 12, 2023
The presence of trauma does NOT cancel accountability or consequences for the lack of it. People are allowed to love you and still hold you accountable. They’re allowed to prioritize their safety and mental health. Nobody owes you presence for demons you’ve refused to deal with. https://t.co/vzJNfVR04N
— Ajoke• (@Beetaheer) October 10, 2023
sexual chemistry is equally important as emotional chemistry https://t.co/pFEnI8ufI3
— celo (@celocreyes) October 11, 2023
Alot of people cannot handle genuine love. I mean alot. We are so traumatized as a generation. Most people are so edgy and insecure, tend to self sabotage when nothing wrong is happening in the relationship. Not everyone carries drama around like a placard. https://t.co/OGgmWNSEuI
— 𝐏𝐚𝐮𝐥 𝐖𝐢𝐥𝐥𝐢𝐚𝐦𝐬 (@_kingwills) October 11, 2023
Dating with a purpose becomes important even if you’re seeking an equation with no strings attached. Letting the other person know your expectations isn’t as hard as one might think.
