A Bengali wedding is a whirlwind of rituals and customs. And being a bride-to-be myself, no one gets it better than me. It’s a lot different from other cultures. And all this while I have been teased by my non-bong friends for some of the funniest things they have experienced at a Bengali wedding. Like the weird Ulu-lu-lu sound or the groom wearing a funny topor. Also, bong weddings don’t have alcohol! I know, the non-bongs are pretty inquisitive and being a bride-to-be, here are some of the things I’ve been asked time and again.
“Let’s just say it’s our very own music and we don’t need the DJ all throughout the festivities! On a serious note, it’s considered auspicious and drives away all the negativities.”
“Hell yes, we love maach! It’s what gives us those absolutely drool-worthy tresses.”
“I love Rabindra Sangeet and yup, I would like to believe that I have a great voice, but can you not just assume things?!
“How funny is that safa (headgear) you wear to hide your entire face?”
“First, it’s not even a song. Second, your knowledge about Bengali songs seems limited. How about I get you some real good Bengali stuff to watch? Will that help?”
“Let’s just say, his conversations are much more meaningful than most other men I’ve come across!”
“It’s a ritual where we are not supposed to see the groom before the ‘Shubho Drishti’. Shubho Drishti is the first eye contact the bride makes with her groom during the entire rituals. We don’t have any other common pre-wedding functions.”
“Well, yes, mishti doi is our thing and if you’ve never had it before, then you’re going to experience something totally yum my friend!”
“Why would I? My brothers are holding me up, nice and strong!”
“We are. And guess what? Every body knows it! But do we really need to prove our modern outlook by serving alcohol at weddings?”
“We do have a bashor ghor after the marriage that’s all about the dance and drama. It’s pretty much the same you know, just that it’s after the wedding”
“Uh no, not only water. You will be asked to eat tea and juices as well…cha khabe? Juice khabe?”
“Well, you finally come to the point!”
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