Online dating can turn into so many things at once—exciting, embarrassing, boring and even horrible. The fun part is that a few minutes into a conversation with our date, and we know exactly where things are heading. In other words, we always know when things are about to get hot and steamy in the bed. You can either have the most amazing night of your life with the online stranger or experience the most awkward sexual encounter ever. But, in both cases, there are certain ground rules that you need to be aware of.
Yes, when it comes to casual sex with your online date, there are some unspoken protocols that you need to follow. These rules make things easy for you and your date, and ensure that things don’t get awkward while you guys are *at it.* Scroll ahead to know about those golden rules:
7 Rules You Need To Keep In Mind Before Getting Hot & Heavy With An Online Stranger
Here are seven things that you need to keep in mind before having sex with your online date for the first time:
Search & Research Him, Sister
You know how they say that stalking is unhealthy? That’s not entirely correct. You need to online stalk the guy you are going on a date with and planning to sleep with on all social media platforms. You can talk to a few mutual friends to know more about them as well. Also, be completely aware of their relationship status and honest about yours too. You don’t want to get naughty with a douchebag who cheats on their partner, right?
Use Protection ‘Coz That’s Non-Negotiable
Obviously, this one goes without saying—always use condoms. Do not solely depend on the guy to do the needful and keep a stash handy in your bag as well. In case he makes any excuses and refuses to put it on, then run in the opposite direction sis ‘coz that’s a red flag that you just cannot ignore.
Be On The Same Page
“What does casual sex mean to you? Can you draw a line between sex and emotions? Are you comfortable with being friends with benefits? Does the concept of no-strings-attached work for you?” These are some of the basic things that you need to discuss with your partner before you jump on the bed with them. You need to have clarity about their views on relationships and sex and whether or not your thoughts align with them.
Do Not Get Wasted
Sure, you can have a few glasses of alcohol to loosen up but always keep a count. Do not drink into oblivion because things may get nasty the next morning. You can end up doing things that you regret the next day and that’s the kind of guilt nobody wants to deal with…not even your partner.
Discuss The Do’s & Don’t’s
Before you start all the hanky-panky in the room, discuss your fetishes and kinks. You don’t want to end up with a Christian Grey in bed when all you’re looking for is some plain vanilla sex. Talk about your hard and soft limits aka the sexual things you can and defs cannot do beforehand.
The Place Matters
You need to plan early if you will be taking things further at his place or yours. Inform your bestie if you’re spending the night at an unknown location and prep your house in advance if you are bringing the guy to your place. Keep extra towels, tissue boxes and other stuff to keep things hygienic. In case you are booking a hotel room, make sure that your ride back home is safe.
Keep It Light
Casual sex is supposed to be fun and exciting. So, relax and enjoy the moment with your partner. Don’t make things awkward by asking deep meaningful questions about life on the very first date itself. And, for the love of God, avoid psychoanalysing everything he says. Take things slow and see where the chips ultimately fall.
So ladies, keep these golden rules in mind and enjoy casual sex casually, but safely.
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