I was 21 and in my ‘hot girl era’. He seemed to be the sweetest guy who was in his late 20s. I was aware that it’s a ‘Netflix and chill’ kind of a thing but we met regularly and loved each other’s company.
I was happy, so I asked my partner if we could make it exclusive. He wasn’t ready and we called it off. I had been in a committed relationship earlier for two years. When that ended, it hurt. But this situationship breakup was the worst heartbreak I have ever had.
I remember feeling light-headed when we decided to end it and it dragged me into a year-long toxic hell.
While I lost my mental peace during that situationship, I gained enough lessons to not fall for it ever again. Here’s what I learned:
1. Be On The Same Page As Your Partner!
None of us discussed what we wanted or were thinking about the relationship we had. While I had high hopes that our situation might progress into something beautiful, the same wasn’t the case with him.
2. Those Butterflies Are Temporary, But Mental Peace Is Permanent!
The butterflies I got in my stomach after looking at him were the only reason I agreed to try a situationship. But if a serious relationship is what you actually crave, it’s not a good idea to try this modern-day dating trend (no matter how hot your crush is).
3. Live Your Life, Please!
I’m not really proud of the time I wasted chasing him and waiting for his texts instead of having some fun myself. I could have used that time to hang out with my friends, spend time with my sisters, or by indulging in some self-care routines.
4. I Emerged As A Stronger Person!
After finally ending this toxic situationship loop, I got enough strength and wisdom to not try and fit myself into doors that are not meant for me. Somebody rightly said, “With heartbreaks, comes maturity too!”
5. I Realised What I Wanted!
After forcing myself into a toxic situationship and watching it fail miserably, I realised what I didn’t want in my life. Thankfully, it led me to the man of my dreams.
6. No One Else Can Decide My Self Worth
I had started feeling that it ended because there was something wrong with me. I thought that I needed to be a better version of myself or maybe if I was prettier and thinner, this wouldn’t have happened. Today, as I am a little older and wiser, I realise that it wasn’t my fault that it ended.
Well, I have learnt that hard way. But I hope my story helps you to put yourself first. Take care boo!
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