We’ve all grown up watching vicious mothers-in-law in desi TV serials. NGL, I have also heard some real-life horror stories about monstrous MILs. But that’s just one side of the coin. Recently, I came across some wholesome stories on Reddit and Quora that are proof that there is so much more to mothers-in-law than the TV serial stereotypes. Read on for eight heartwarming stories:
Made Me Feel Like A Part Of The Family
“I always say I won the “in-law” jackpot! My MIL (mother-in-law) has always included me as part of the family, she didn’t wait until we were married to start the relationship. She doesn’t give her opinion on our relationship or decisions unless we ask, she’s an amazing cook and shows her love by feeding her family. MIL is also a great Nanny! She has fun with her grandkids, spends time with them and loves them all equally. Again, she only gives her child-rearing tips if asked.”
She’s A Peach
“My MIL is an absolute peach. I don’t have a great relationship with my own mom, so it’s great to have someone in my life like her. I’m currently nine months pregnant, and last month she asked what I wanted for my birthday. I told her I have everything I need, but I’d love it if someone cleaned our house. She hired cleaners, took me out to lunch, and booked me a pedicure. It was the best day ever. She’s having a milestone birthday next May, and I’m already trying to think of an awesome gift for her.”
Involved But Not Too Involved
“My MIL is fantastic. She’s always supportive and welcoming, involved but not too involved and has never pressured us about grandkids. She’s even close with my sister and her kids.
There’s one moment I remember that really showed how kind and caring she is. There was a bit of family drama where MIL’s niece was feeling excluded from family events (turns out it was her mum never passing on invites or saying niece said no but she was never asked). My MIL said it was never anybody’s intention to exclude the niece, but that our intentions didn’t matter because niece still FELT excluded. So we needed to address what was causing her to feel that way. MIL discussed it with the other aunts and made sure that for all family events, the niece was invited directly even when we knew she couldn’t attend because it was the invitation that mattered. That event was several years ago now, and MIL still continues with the invites.
It was so wonderful to see her address a problem so maturely and put in conscious, long-term effort into a resolution. She truly cares about others.”
She Buys Stuff That Makes Her Think Of Me
“My MIL will just find stuff that made her think of me and just buy it. She will also never tell us what to do or overstep her boundaries. If we choose to not do something, she is okay with it. She doesn’t give her opinions on things unless we ask her. She doesn’t try to give advice. She’s also just a really practical lady and thrifts like my mom and us.”
Went Out Of Her Way To Make Me Feel Comfortable
“I absolutely adore my MIL. She is a really nice person and has always gone out of her way to make me feel comfortable. She is also amazing with my (adopted) son. She treats him exactly the same as her other biological grandkids. She was so great when we were wedding planning. She never tried to take over and let us tell her what we needed from her. For like three months before our wedding, she had a countdown and would text me every few days with it.”
Better Than My Own Mother
“I’ve got an awesome mother-in-law! It’s been almost 1.5 years since I’ve been married and I’ve never felt that she’s my mother-in-law. Sometimes I feel she’s even better than my own mother! Jokes apart, she’s the most adoring woman I’ve met. I don’t live with my in-laws so whenever we go visit them, she starts preparations a week or two in advance. She’ll ask me what I want to eat, and what I would like to take back home like some delicacies, pickles etc. She’ll make sure I get to eat what I like even if she has to make it just for me(I have a very different taste in food as compared to my in-laws).”
She Is A Pure Hearted Person
“We had a love marriage but before marriage, I met my MIL at Starbucks and we talked for almost 3-4 hours. And that day only I thought its gonna be a beautiful relationship. She is such a pure-hearted person. She made everything so comfortable for me. My in laws family speak a different language, Telugu that I do not understand at all. She always makes sure she speaks in Hindi for me. She does not have any problem regarding that. She cooks delicious food, because of her I now eat even those things that I never used to touch. Also, I learnt many South Indian recipes from her.”
She’s My Guide & My Mentor
“Yes.. I do have a good mother-in-law. She taught me many things which my mother could not in 25 years. She taught me many dishes, cleaning and housekeeping technique and how to maintain relationships with her own behavior. It’s not like I don’t get angry on her or everything is goody goody always.. But she made efforts to make me feel welcome in the home. She is not my mother, but she is my mentor when it comes to balancing job and family, teacher and gossip buddy too. I am really grateful to have such understanding and empathic mother in law.”
*BRB* Manifesting a mother-in-law like these.
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