When it comes to physical intimacy everyone has a list of likes and dislikes. What works for you might not work for your partner and there is nothing wrong with that/ However, there are certain things that often guys do in bed that are huge turn-offs!
We decided to give them a nudge in the right direction and help them out. Here is a list of a few things men need to ditch in bed ASAP.
Don’t Ditch Foreplay
As the popular saying goes, ‘sex is not a sprint, it is a marathon!’ When it comes to intercourse, it is not just about penetration but also intimacy. The purpose of foreplay is to get you in the mood. There are so many ways in which you can make your foreplay sesh extra steamy. Just talk to your partner and get to know what is best for the two of you. Just do not be lazy when it comes to foreplay!
Don’t Initiate Kinky Stuff Without Consent
Let’s make one thing clear, we are not kink-shaming! However, before you decide to go for it during sex, make sure your partner knows about it. Things like spanking, pulling hair and choking is not for everyone! You should have an honest conversation about your kinks and triggers. Moreover, it is always best to have a safe word to make the experience better for the two of you.
Don’t Try Out Everything You’ve Seen In Porn
Here’s the truth: what you see in porn doesn’t happen IRL. Every sexual experience is different and you can’t compare it to the ones shown in adult films. While porn can be fun and useful when you need some new ideas, don’t make it your holy grail of sexual knowledge. Ultimately, you need to work along with your partner to make the experience better for her and for you.
Don’t Sleep Right Away
It is not ‘wham, bam, thank you ma’am!’ Sleeping immediately after sex is a big no-no as it makes the entire thing appear like a chore. Sure, you might feel knackered, but don’t miss out on the pillow talk.
Don’t Be Selfish
Sex is not a solo performance, you have to be mindful of your partner’s needs too. Here are a few helpful tips: Ask your partner what position works for her. Make sure she is feeling comfortable with you and don’t stick to just penetrative sex. Moreover, if she is comfortable with it, go down on her.
Don’t Be Rough On The Clit
Don’t rub or press the clit like you are scratching off a lottery card. Observe your partner’s body language, see what she likes and what she doesn’t. Here’s a pearl of wisdom that every man needs to remember: clits are sensitive! In case, you are uncertain about what to do, here are a few tips: Use your finger to trace slow circles around the clit. At the same time, focus on the area near her clitoris as well. Be creative with your hand movement and remember these three golden words: suck, lick and touch.
Ditch these things and make the best of your next steamy sesh!
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