When Arijit Singh said, “Har kisi ko nahi milta yahan pyaar zindagi mein,” we all felt that! It’s not easy to find love in life and even more difficult to meet someone who reciprocates your feelings. But, if and when you do, hold them close because you are definitely one of the lucky ones. For the rest, welcome to the club of ‘unrequited lovers’, which is painful, poetic and one of the favourite topics of Bollywood.
Over the years, the entertainment industry has come up with many songs and movies about one-sided love that is emotional and relatable. But, they have also come up with stories that made the consequences of ek tarfa pyaar quite problematic. Our main problem here? Instead of calling out these toxic repercussions, these movies have either glorified them or tried to justify them. Intrigued to know what we’re talking about? Scroll ahead!
Here are some Bollywood movies that taught us all the things that we shouldn’t do if we fall for someone who doesn’t feel the same way about us:
We all cried when Aman (Shah Rukh Khan) died at the end of Kal Ho Naa Ho and didn’t get his happily ever after with Naina (Priety Zinta). While that love story did not end well, we wished that the other had not either. We’re talking about Naina and Rohit’s (Saif Ali Khan) relationship that was forced and based on lies.
While Rohit was in love with his BFF, she clearly didn’t love him back. Instead of planning a ridiculous ‘6 din ladki in’ strategy, he should have continued being a loyal friend to her. Lying to impress the girl you like is quite problematic because no, everything is not fair in love and war.
Kundan (Dhanush) refused to believe that the girl whom he was obsessed with, did not reciprocate his feelings from quite an early age. He slit his wrist to convince Zoya (Sonam Kapoor) of his love and instead of calling out his toxic behaviour, she accepted him. How messed up was that?! His obsession grew over the years and became even more problematic with time. His unrequited love ruined several lives and sadly, even till the end, the movie romanticised everything.
Rani (Taapsee Pannu) and Rishu (Vikrant Massey) were clearly not happy in their marriage and they both chose the wrong ways to solve their problems. There came a time when the husband decided to let go of his cheating wife, but she decided to win his heart in every possible way. The issue was that her ‘way’ included tolerating domestic abuse. No one needs to become a victim of violence to make someone fall in love with them. Passion and love do not involve torture and it’s high time that people understand this difference.
Ayan (Ranbir Kapoor) was a textbook man-child who could not take no for an answer. If the one you love does not love you back, accept their decision and walk away. Don’t make their lives miserable by stating that you will not ‘allow’ them to be with anyone else like Ayan did with Alizeh (Anushka Sharma). Also, instead of torturing yourself by attending their weddings, take time to heal yourself. Yes, Channa Mereya is romantic, but you don’t have to actually sing it to express your one-sided love, right?
If the guy you love is toxic enough to fall for your BFF while being in a relationship with you, girl, dump him. Stop obsessing over him like Veronica (Deepika Padukone) did and definitely don’t use substances to get over him.
We hope that instead of glorifying these movies, Bollywood comes up with more characters like Aditi from Yeh Jawaani Hai Dewaani. She taught us that unrequited love is not the end of the world and people can find happiness once they start loving themselves.
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