If you're a bride in 2020 we can totally understand why your stress levels may be hitting the roof. Don't worry though because there are loads of things you can start doing. If you're a winter bride who needs a guide to what all you can start with in terms of shaadi planning even if you can't go shopping, then we've got it for you.
The Coronavirus pandemic has forced everyone to self-quarantine and last night even Prime Minister Narendra Modi announced a complete lockdown for the whole country. In a situation like this, all relationships have suddenly become long-distance ones. If you have had your roka or are engaged, this is a great time to truly get to know your fiancé especially if you've met him in an arranged marriage set-up.
From understanding his spending habits to his daily routine and expectations, these are really important questions to ask anyone you're going to spend the rest of your life with.
This question really helps when you're getting to know someone. Many times it's the experiences we never want to do again that are the hardest and also transform you a great deal. Usually, it's the hardest things that we go through in life that make us realise how strong we actually are.
Most of the time, this tells you a lot about the experiences they've been through. If someone's been cheated on by their former partner, they may consider infidelity as completely unforgivable. So it's a good way to find out what works or doesn't work at all for your fiancé.
This one is to know how grounded or efficient he is. We all have something or the other that we procrastinate but don't always know why it seems so cumbersome to us.
Yeah, it sounds really lame but it actually is a very helpful question because it tells you about what the person truly wants to do if they weren't so busy trying to earn a living. If they want to travel the world, donate to a charity or invest all that money in shares so that even the future generations can sustain themselves.
We have to understand that everyone has different needs in a relationship and a part of those needs getting fulfilled is to understand what healthy means for the other person. Love isn't felt or expressed in the same way so communicating about boundaries and needs is crucial to make a marriage work.
Most of the time it is the fear of the unknown or uncertainty that stops us from doing something that we really want to. Now, waking up without any fear will push us to do what we really want to so you know which direction you want to push him towards if you want a wholesome life together.
People often interpret this question in a different way- some talk about a time they failed and want to do it again with more effort or more mindfulness, others think of a really happy memory or a year they had and want to relive that part.
You need to know if he's a true introvert or an extrovert. Introverts usually feel drained when they're with others and feel like they need their 'me time' while extroverts thrive in crowds and know how to manoeuvre their way around.
Let's get to know things that actually make him happy and he would love to do. It doesn't have to be a special day it could be a regular day filled with all the things, foods, and activities he loves. Some people could spend their entire day in their fave bookstore while others like to pack things in- go here, do this, eat that. You can later use this to plan one especially for him.
This will give you an insight into how he was as a child and what he wish he did more of or did too little of growing up. It usually tells you about his parenting and schooling and what type of person he was growing up. Many of our adult needs also stem from this place.
So what are you waiting for, get asking! Those Whatsapp video calls are going to be way longer now!
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