It is said that you should think about the journey and not the destination but when it comes to sex, it is all about the destination - the big O! While everything about sex is amazing - from kissing to going down on each other to penetration - it's the orgasm that we're all after. However, the most difficult part of it all is recognizing that you've had an orgasm if you've never had one. It has been described in a variety of ways like sneezing or tipping over the edge but how do you really know what you've experienced was the mind-numbing, toe-curling climax you've been wishing for since forever?
And if the signs match, rejoice, ladies, you've experienced something so beautiful!
During sex, there is a build-up of tension in the body which is released as soon as you orgasm which is why it suddenly feels so amazing! This is similar to sneezing, which is also called a mini orgasm; only it feels a million times better.
It's a well-known fact that sex and orgasms release feel-good hormones like oxytocin and dopamine making you feel happy, satisfied and blissful. So if you've had an orgasm, you'll not only feel like you're on top of the world, you'll also feel much closer to your partner.
Since orgasms end up making you feel relaxed and light, they naturally make you sleepy too! In fact, researchers have found that orgasm before bed can actually lead to a good night's sleep. This can also be contributed to all that oxytocin that is released, plus let's be honest, sex is a workout!
During or just after an orgasm most people experience involuntary muscle contractions in the vaginal walls, butts, thighs, and stomach. So if you can feel your muscles spasming, you've had an orgasm, girl!
During an orgasm, the blood rushes to the surface of your skin and the genitals. This is why many people refuse to be touched for a few minutes after sex - because everything is sensitive to touch. However, if you do want to go for another round, start slow and away from the areas that can't bear to be touched just then!
As you lead up to the orgasm, your heart rate will speed up and your breaths will become shorter and quicker. But once you've climaxed, slowly your heart rate will come back to normal and you'll breathe more deeply. Usually, it takes about seven to ten minutes for everything to return back to what it was originally.
As mentioned above, orgasm causes blood to rush to the surface of the skin. This causes you to suddenly feel hot, especially around the face, neck, and chest which also makes you go red. This 'sex flush' is a sure-shot sign that sexy time led you to the right destination.
Remember that while orgasms are great, sex doesn't always have to end with you climaxing. Sometimes, it's about the journey more than the destination.
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