Sex Ed: 8 Tips To Keep In Mind Before You Have Sex For The First Time

Sex Ed: 8 Tips To Keep In Mind Before You Have Sex For The First Time

Having sex for the first time can be a daunting experience. A lot of thoughts will cross your mind. Will it hurt? Will it bleed? These are a few common questions that most first-timers have. Know that if you're having consensual and safe sex, you're doing the right thing. But we understand that it's okay to feel nervous which is why we have made a list of tips for you that will help you glide through your first time smoothly. Read on to know what we're talking about.

Everything You Need To Know About Having Sex For The First Time

We have a lot of expectations when it comes to our 'first time'. It's only normal to want it to be special and memorable and that's why we want you to be prepared. Here are some things you should keep in mind if you're going to lose your virginity. 

Know Your Body


Before you let someone in, explore your body. Masturbation can actually help in knowing your body and that will help you to tell your partner what you really feel and want. This will, in turn, lead to a good first-time experience.

Communication Is The Key

It is always good to maintain a healthy line of communication with your partner, you both should feel comfortable talking to each other about absolutely everything. Your likes, dislikes, fetishes, everything. This will also help them in better understanding your needs (in bed). If you're concerned about something, they should know that too. Together, you can actually help each other make it a great first-time experience.

Don't Fake An Orgasm


Ladies, this is one thing that everyone should know. If you fake an orgasm once, you make it difficult for yourself to communicate your feelings with your partner. This is in fact, more important when you're having sex with someone for the first time. It is like setting unrealistic standards because let's face it, ladies, not everyone can get an orgasm the first time they have sex. And that's okay.

Go Slow

Slow and steady wins the race, remember? Sex can get so exciting sometimes but the real deal is to take it slow. Enjoy and feel every moment to make it an everlasting memory.

You May NOT Bleed


Let's put it this way - some women bleed during their first time due to the stretching of the hymen. However, your hymen can stretch due to a lot of other reasons like riding a bicycle or working out. It is a misconception that sex for the first time makes you bleed and hurts. Some women bleed while others don't, so relax.

Don't Compare

Your friends may tell you their first-time stories, but know that every individual has different experiences. Some may experience pain while other's orgasm in the first go. Experience things yourself before you make perceptions because that might give you high expectations.

Focus On The Foreplay


Foreplay makes you comfortable with the person you're with. It turns you on and makes the sex feel even better. Make sure you indulge in a long foreplay session before you decide to jump in the real deal.

Use A Lubricant

If you're having sex for the first time, it may get a little difficult. It is best to use a lubricant in such a situation. Lubricants are great alternatives if you're looking at friction-free safe sex.

So, what was your first-time like? 


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