Breakups are always hard, whether you're the one ending the relationship or the one getting dumped. According to experts, breakups are so hard to deal with because you experience symptoms similar to an addiction withdrawal. There are days when you will feel motivated, but there are also days when your hands will tremble, you will throw up anything you eat, cry till your eyes are swollen, your body will physically hurt and you will do everything possible to try to get back with your ex. Just know that this is normal and everything will eventually be okay.
But are you tired of wallowing and want to get there sooner? Then follow these 5 steps to treat yourself, and your journey towards self-healing will definitely be smoother and quicker.
1. Go Into Extreme Self-Care Mode
Because you’re feeling extra vulnerable, it’s time to amp up your self-care routine from the usual face masks on Sundays. Buy that silk robe, order in some gourmet food, slather on a luxurious face mask, light some scented candles and binge-watch your favourite comfort show. You deserve it!
Women have been conditioned to believe that men are supposed to buy them expensive jewellery as grand gestures of love. If you’ve been eyeing a ring with a massive rock, don’t wait for a man to buy it for you! If you want it and you can afford it, why let archaic thinking get in your way?
When a relationship ends, most people find it hard to cope with day-to-day life because they are left with a void. So instead of trying to desperately contact your ex, get in touch with your girlfriends and go on a trip! Not only will reconnecting with people who love and nurture you help you heal, but the change in scenery will also do heaps to distract you and make you feel better.
A lot of people get the urge to adopt a pet after a breakup to make up for the emotional loss. And while we agree that bonding with pets is definitely a healthy way to deal with grief, the decision to adopt one should not be impulsive. Why not start with plants? They might not be able to cuddle with you, but watering and nurturing plants every day will make you feel better and give you something to focus your energy on.
Breakups are often a blow to our self-confidence, and end up leaving us feeling unattractive and undesirable. Something as small as wearing nice lingerie under your clothes will make feel sexy and confident. And if you feel good on the inside its bound to show on the outside, right?