If you've ever been in a relationship or are married, you would know all about the much-hyped 'honeymoon phase'. Theoretically, it's the first few months of a relationship/marriage when you're constantly learning new things about one another and sharing a lot of firsts whilst falling, deeply and madly, head-over-heels in love with each other. It's when everything feels exciting and the world seems to be filled with 'rainbows and sunshine'.
You'd know what I'm talking about if you ever found yourself thinking about your partner 24X7, felt warm and giddy just by the thought of him, smiled at the most random moments and became equally excited and nervous whenever you were with him. In fact, you both must have been inseparable, eager to spend every possible moment together and enchanted by every aspect of each other. Not to forget, you could barely keep your hands off each other, could you? *wink*
But, the real question is - how long does this honeymoon phase last? And WHAT happens when it's over? It's not just the time that varies but so does every couple's perspective. While some try to reignite this phase by spending more time together and try new things to spice up their love, others find the period 'after' their honeymoon phase much more comforting and rewarding. Curious, much?
We've compiled some of the most interesting and honest confessions by REAL women who may/may not have dealt with the end of this honeymoon phase after getting married. Let's find out what they have to say:
My husband and I have been married for almost a year and a half now and were dating for 6 years before that. He was one of my best friends even before we started dating. So, even though the 'honeymoon phase' of our relationship may be over, the fact that we’re best friends first is what’s most important. There’s nothing more that I look forward to than going home at the end of each day and just sitting on the couch with him and watching Netflix. We’re closer than ever and have reached a certain comfort level with each other that makes the monotony of daily life more fun and interesting. All thanks to the simple fact that we’re always there for each other.
My husband and I had known each other for a good 5 years before we got married. So quite honestly, our honeymoon phase was over way before we even got married! But I anyhow don't believe in the concept of what they call the 'honeymoon phase'. It's sad to even think that the best time that you share with your partner is only during the first few months of a relationship or a marriage. As your relationship progresses, you experience newer things that are just as charming!
Well, I hate to burst your bubble but we never had a 'typical' honeymoon phase. It was an arranged marriage so we didn't get enough time to get to know each other on such a deep level. But it just felt so right from the beginning that everything fit in naturally. We enjoyed each other's company and felt comfortable enough to share anything from the start. And I think that's what made our marriage work so perfectly! It's been 3 years and we still learn something new about each other, every day. So, I guess our 'honeymoon phase' and state of comfort go hand in hand. I wouldn't want it in any other way!
After working together for almost 4 years, we got married and also founded our startup. Work and a newly married life is a mix that is crazy and awesome. We do spend most of our time together in the office and at home but what makes the difference is when he takes out those two seconds to look at me and smile. Or sends me a cute text on Whatsapp while we're sitting across the table. Life is not perfect but when you two decide to off-road together without many conditions, it’s beautiful and comforting. We do have our mushy moments, but it's not just about intimacy. It's also about those moments where you feel that he/she will be there all the time (cheesy but confirmed).
We've been married for almost 5 years now, and I don't remember ever going through the stereotypical 'honeymoon phase'. From the start, my husband has kept it real with me and vice versa. 'Keeping it real' doesn't mean that we don't have our moments and days of overbrimming love. But I wouldn't classify them as cheesy moments that require an extra effort. These moments just come naturally to us now. I think we both know each other's personalities well enough to know that for us, it's always been the small things that leave a big impact. Somedays, he randomly brings flowers for me; after a fight, he comes home with a box of Le15 Choux - he's smart like that. *wink* Most days, a simple good morning kiss with his smile does it for me. He occasionally surprises me by cooking for me when I'm low since he knows how much I love food and his cooking. These things make me warm and fuzzy inside. His special moment is when I make his morning coffee for him without him having to ask. But again, it's not a phase and I hope it continues not being a phase for us.
I dated my husband for almost 7 years before marrying him. So, by then, it didn't even feel like we were married. Even in the initial days of our marriage, I used to accidentally, introduce him as my 'boyfriend' to everyone new. Hehe! And as for our honeymoon phase, I think we got over it a long time before we got married. Honestly, it felt quite natural and calming to me. I know a lot of people make a big deal out of NOT being excited enough or pumped up with energy 24X7 for each other, but I don't think that's us. We know how much we love each other but we don't like to show it off all the time. We still have lots of sex and go out on date nights but only when we want to - not because we HAVE to. It's all about finding the 'right comfort' in your relationship!
We've been married for almost a year and a half now, but the honeymoon phase isn’t quite over yet. Well, it shouldn’t anyway, right? Obviously, I don’t get that same mushy, 'butterflies-in-the-stomach' feeling anymore when I see him but that’s only because we’ve reached a comfort level in our relationship. We do have our share of fights and arguments as well. But, despite being busy with our schedules, we make sure to have a date night every once in a while, work out together, have at least one meal of the day together and sleep while binging on our favourite movies and shows. It’s all about being buddies first and spouses later!
Building a successful marriage is a lifelong challenge but worth every second. The thumb-rule is to understand the different phases of married life (which are just as lovely as they're crazy) with an open mind. For a more fulfilling relationship, it's important to focus not just on the good and lovey-dovey parts but instead, seeing something 'good' in the flawed parts of it as well. I have been married for the past 4 years during which I and my husband have established trust, mutual admiration and emotional intimacy towards each other. But all the while, our honeymoon phase never faded away! And I don't think that it ever will. In a happy marriage, I believe that the 'good times' can never end.
Awww! Aren't they like, the cutest little tales of marriage ever? Tell us your story! Did your 'honeymoon' magic fade away with time or become even better?
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