If you have been asked to deliver a wedding speech by someone, consider yourself lucky, because that is a true honour. This means that you are very close and special to that person. However, you just can’t stand in front of an audience, dressed in your best outfit, having no idea of what to say. Owing to the importance of the occasion, and the pressure involved (brownie points to you if you suck at public speaking), you have to ensure that you are totally prepared.
Do you have many questions about how to give a wedding toast? So, gulp down a glass of water (or champagne), and follow these tips to make sure that your wedding toast pops.
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Wedding toasts are given by the people in your life who are most important to you. Ideally, it starts with a speech from the couple’s friends (the maid of honour and the best man) and ends with the parents. The order should be something like this:
The role of the best man in a wedding goes beyond planning a fun bachelor party. He has some serious duties, too, to perform and giving the wedding speech is one of them. The best man can start with how he knows the groom, go further and tell the story of the time he met the bride for the first time and end with saying good things about the couple and wishing them happiness.
The wedding toast outline for the maid of honour remains almost the same as the best man. To make it more interesting, she can add a funny anecdote from the wedding planning or her friendship with the bride, apart from wishing the couple good luck for their married life.
Father/mother of the bride/groom start with thanking the guests for being a part of the wedding, wish the couple the very best for their future and then raise a toast to the other set of parents and the couple.
In some cases, the couple may also choose to give a toast in their wedding. This includes thanking their friends and family for their involvement in their big day and expressing their excitement about starting a new life together. However, this is optional and the couple may choose not to speak if they don’t want.
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The rings have been exchanged. The vows have been said. All the guests are now seated and it’s time to celebrate the two people in love. It’s the most important day of the couple’s life and you seriously don’t want to goof it up. Here are certain ground rules to follow when it comes to wedding toasts:
1. When you end the speech, ask the guests to raise their glasses and toast to the newlyweds.
2. Don’t read out directly from a piece of paper. It’s okay to carry glance cards that you can sneak a peek into whenever you feel you are going off the track.
3. It’s not a good idea to open mic at the end of the wedding toast. Even if you have a lot of people who would like to speak, it’s advisable to restrict the number to a handful of people if you don’t want to make the affair unnecessarily lengthy and boring.
4. Make sure you and all the guests have a glass of champagne or wine in your hand before you start the wedding speech.
5. If you are holding a mic in one hand and a paper in the other, it is okay to put the glass on the table right in front of you. But if either of the hands is free make sure that you give the toast while holding the glass.
6. Maintain eye contact as you speak to the couple and the guests. Also, pause and smile whenever required.
7. Once you are done, sit down so that the next person can also give a toast to the couple.
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Regardless of how close you are to the newlyweds, figuring out what to say and how to say can be difficult. Follow these tips to make your speech memorable.
Ideally, the length of the speech should be 1-2 minutes. Even if you have a lot to say, don’t go on more than three minutes.
When you start the speech with “I don’t know what to say” it gives the impression that you are unprepared, not something expected from someone who holds such an important place in the couple’s life. So start with a strong statement or a funny memory that you share with the bride/groom that brings a personal touch to your speech.
Another thing that will ensure that you don’t look unprepared is enough practice before the D-day. You don’t want to fumble and wriggle, with everyone looking at you, because you have nothing meaningful to say. You can also write down the important points so that you don’t get off the track.
To make the whole thing more personal carry a souvenir, like a picture or a keepsake that is special to you and the bride/groom. For example, the parent can carry a picture of the bride/groom from their childhood and narrate a cute story from their childhood.
When you add a story to your speech you add emotion to it and make it more personal. It will make them feel more special.
Adding a personal touch is okay but make sure that you don’t end up making fun of the couple. Avoid telling embarrassing stories about them that they would hate to tell in public. The wedding speech is supposed to be fun and sweet so avoid stories about how the groom got drunk and passed out on the dance floor in the bachelor or how the bride freaked out during the shaadi shopping and got into a brawl with a shopkeeper.
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1. Not everyone at the wedding knows you or how you are related to the couple. You must start by introducing yourself first and briefly mentioning how you know the couple
2. Your speech should thank the guests and make them feel special. Also, don’t forget to acknowledge the people who badly wanted to be a part of the wedding but couldn’t for whatsoever reason.
3. Include some genuine praises for the bride/groom and their partner. Remember, it’s not just about the bride or the groom but the two as a couple. You also have to make the other partner feel great.
1. Don’t do a shoddy work of copy-pasting a speech from the internet. Put some effort and write a genuine note that comes from your heart.
2. Don’t include crude language and stay away from swearing of any kind. You may think that it is funny but it is not.
3. Don’t talk about past flames and affairs. Even if you have a very funny story to tell.
4. Don’t make fun of the new couple. It’s their big day so save them any embarrassment by roasting them in public.
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Include these heartfelt quotations and famous sayings in your wedding speech to make sure that the couple and other guests remember it for a long time to come.
“Here is to the groom with a bride so fair and a bride with a groom so rare.”
“To love, laughter and to a happily ever after.”
“Here’s to the husband and the wife. May your love stay for life.”
“Let’s toast to a wedding that will be both strong and enduring.”
“To the bride and the groom, may your love be as endless as your wedding rings.”
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“Marriage is a relationship in which one person is always right and the other person is the husband.”
“Congratulations to the bride and the groom. May you never stop laughing. Even when the jokes are boring and lame.”
“He stole her heart. So she stole his last name.”
“The secret to a happy marriage still remains a secret.”
“Love is like an electric blanket with somebody else controlling the switch.”
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“When children find true love, parents find true joy.”
“Coming together is the beginning. Keeping together is progress. Working together is success.”
“Love doesn’t consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.”
“Happy marriages begin when we marry the ones we love and they blossom when we love the ones we marry.”
“When you are the parent you want the best for your child. Luckily, my child found the best when he found the bride/groom (insert name).”
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“When there is great love, there are always miracles.”
“A successful marriage requires falling in love many times, always with the same person.”
“In my opinion, the best thing you can do is find someone who loves you for exactly who you are. I am happy that you found that someone.”
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“They say that a man is incomplete until he is married. After that, he is finished. Congratulations bride and groom on your marriage.”
“As you settle into married life together, remember the four magic words that will keep any marriage strong- I’ll do the dishes.”
“You don’t marry the person you can live with, you marry the person you can’t live without.”
“To the two things that make a great marriage- having a good sense of humour and selective hearing.”
Remember Claire Cleary's big speech at her sister's wedding in Wedding Crashers? Her moving and every-bit-honest speech was a wonderfully sweet surprise to the newlyweds and the guests. Well, if you are able to stir warm emotions in your toast, just like Claire, you will definitely make a long-lasting impact.
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