In the ideal world of Bollywood, or shall we say Sooraj Barjatya, your parents and in-laws would not only be eager to meet each other but also become BFFs instantly. But, that doesn't always happen IRL. It's not all about eating jalebis with samdhiji and playing antakshari while sitting in a big circle around the swimming pool in your mansion... Nope, heights of wishful thinking! But even though forming a connection between your in-laws and your parents is quite a task, it's not entirely impossible! Here are some kickass ways to break the ice between your new and existing families, especially before the wedding!
Take baby steps, introduce your parents to your in-laws on a phone call before they meet in person. Doing that will help in making them comfortable with each other and reduce the awkwardness when they meet for the first time.
Courtesy, the Shahid Kapoor-starrer Vivah. It's always a good idea to choose a relaxed location for the first meeting. You could consider going to a cosy restaurant or book a corner table at a quiet coffee shop where there is lesser chaos. It will help in having clear conversations without any disturbance. Avoid taking them to either of their places, it's better to meet at a public place first and then head to either of their houses for the next meeting.
It's very natural to feel awkward for your or his parents to start a conversation first. Both the families would keep wondering what to say and what not to. That's when you play the role of an icebreaker.
We have already told you that Sooraj Barjatya and Rajshri movies know their samdhi-bonding game well. So, once the families are slightly more comfortable being around each other, you can all watch a film together. And nothing says fam-jam better than family dramas like Hum Saath Saath Hain and Vivah. Oh BTW, keep those tissues handy!
They already know your love story. It's time you shift the spotlight on them and ask them about their wedding experiences and how they got to know each other. Shifting the focus on them will help in bonding rather than discussing your wedding all the time. They will find common topics to laugh and talk about and it will bring them into their comfort zone.
Keep away from topics that might irk your parents. It could be topics like religion, culture, and customs. Clearly, not the right time to discuss all this and risk losing the bond even before it is formed. There are so many interesting things to talk about - their travel interests, their hobbies, food and so much more. Focus on those.
A fun day out with your families will do you a great deal of good. But do this only if you think that they are super comfortable with each other. Also, we know that food connects souls. If your parents are foodies, bonding over good food will always lead to happy times. All you need to keep in mind is to give their choice of cuisine a preference and book a restaurant accordingly.
Keep it natural. It won't just happen over the first meeting or overnight. It takes time and it's absolutely normal. Don't force it on them n any manner. Just relax and go with the flow!
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