Relationships are beautiful, you have someone to share your life with, someone who makes you feel amazing and vice versa. But what happens when this person becomes insecure and stops you from living your life, the way you want to? Well, having an overprotective boyfriend can turn any relationship toxic, but here are steps that could help make your relationship better.
Sit him down for a conversation and talk to him about the way he has been behaving. Show him the mirror, quite literally, explaining the situations he has been creating for you that have been making you uncomfortable. If he honestly loves and respects you, he'll find a way to understand your point of view.
This one is for you if you think he is listening and actively working towards making this relationship better then give him time. He will not wake up one day and be a completely different person, slow and steady is the way to go.
Again, another point to remember, you are his girlfriend but that does not mean you spend most of your time covering up for his bad behaviour. Do not find his possessiveness romantic and do not rationalize his craziness. His mistakes are evident and he needs to be answerable for dictating you.
A relationship is a two-way street, so you can ease him into the idea of being more secure in this relationship and trust you. A few days apart will give you both time to ponder over the situation.
Salvaging a relationship is hard work and if you believe that this relationship plays a very important part in your life then you should see a therapist with your boyfriend. Not only will it help both of you understand what is going wrong, but it will also give you direction and a safe space to communicate.
If he has previously been a part of an abusive relationship where he was taken advantage of or treated unjustly, then talk about it. Don't keep the past under wraps, instead help him understand that this relationship is different and he shouldn't be feeling unsafe and insecure with you.
I understand that it can be difficult to see a person you love for who they really are. But sometimes things just don't work out and if the water has gotten over your head, leave. There is nothing good that comes out of a toxic relationship. Do not suffocate yourself and pass it off as love. As Stephen Chbosky rightly put it in Perks Of Being A Wallflower, "We accept the love we think we deserve." So accept that you deserve more and better.
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