First things first - I love desi weddings. More than anything in the world (a little exaggeration, I agree!), I am in love with everything about Indian shaadis. The clothes, food, dance, rituals, functions, everything. But I have also come across people who are not huge fans of the entire idea of a big, fat desi wedding. They believe that weddings should be intimate affairs with only close family and friends in attendance, just like the Western weddings, and I kind of understand their POV too. Well, if you belong to the school of thought that believes that Indian weddings can take some tips from the West, then here are some things you can borrow from our firangi counterparts.
The main reason why Western weddings are the way they are is that they only have one simple function - the wedding reception. The wedding ceremony is only attended by very close friends and families of the couple, and only nears and dears are called to the reception that follows. This also means that you don't need to worry about collecting five different outfits for all the extensive functions. Money saver mode - ON!
Although we proudly put RSVP with a list of contact numbers on our wedding cards, I'm sure that not even 10% people know what it actually means. Well, RSVP stands for the French phrase "Répondez s'il vous plaît". In simpler words, it means 'respond please'. Guests in the West are expected to reply to wedding invites giving their confirmation for being present at the wedding. The hosts then make food and drinks arrangement accordingly. It saves them a lot of hassle and of course, no or little amounts of food wastage. High time we 'actually' start using the RSVP feature on our invites.
A lot of new couples are already doing this and I think it's pretty amazing. One family should not be expected to pay for everything. Since people from both the sides are attending the wedding, it only makes sense to divide the expenses equally.
And talking about people attending the wedding, there really is no need to invite your chachi ke bhai ki maasi ki beti. People you have never met and probably never will again are only at your wedding for the free food (more often than not!), so stop elongating your wedding guest list. Only invite the close ones.
No, I do not mean don't give any gifts to the bride and groom. It's their day and they deserve all the presents in the world. But any kind of len-den among the families is uncalled for and unnecessary.
Yes, the couple's first dance as newlyweds should be made mandatory. It's a really special feeling to sway to your favourite track with your new husband/wife. *dreamy eyes*
Yes, I know that our traditions and rituals are an important part of our culture and should be followed. But I also think that some of them are too unrealistic to be considered in real life. In this situation, it's best to mix tradition with a twist of contemporary. You and your partner can come up with your own wedding vows that you can read out after the traditional ceremony is over. They could be the ones that you actually promise to follow. Cool, right?
And of course, the toasts. It is something very well thought out and I think it'll be a cool addition to our desi weddings too. So what are you waiting for? Tell your friends and fam to keep their speeches ready!
We are quite impressed and influenced by Western food, fashion and even culture at times. Then why not incorporate some of these traditions from all around the world at our weddings too?!
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