While watching He's Just Not That Into You for the 100th time, I had a revelation and I want to share it with you. It'll be a little difficult to accept, as it was for me; but, the truth is we love the chase. No matter how much we deny it, we all know that it's true. Anything that comes to us easy is just not valuable enough.
Not convinced? Let me explain with the help of an example. Have you ever craved blueberry cheesecake and were unable to eat it immediately? But then, when you find a slice, you're not as excited as you thought you'd be. Ideally, you should be the happiest person; but, you're not. You realise it wasn't that big a deal. Don't worry, it happens to most of us. The underlying logic here is that once it's readily available, you don't want it anymore.
In this instance, the cheesecake is a relationship. Millennials love the chase but it's the settling down part of the relationship that is problematic. Most of us have been both the chaser and the chasee. It's a catch-22 situation. If you've been chased, you soon find the other person getting bored of you and if you were the one chasing, you've felt little to no thrill when you finally started dating. But you're not the only one. Nodding in unison, are we?
Everyone has a different explanation for this but what we actually decipher from all this and the movie He's Just Not That Into You is, of course, that we all need a little attention. And while this attention is really important to us, we do not want it to interfere with our space and freedom. After feeling the entire range of human emotions, we have conditioned ourselves to believe that things will most likely end in heartbreak and so, it's better to just enjoy the attention without the accompanying commitment.
Or maybe not. Maybe you're the kind who enjoys being by yourself and are indifferent of the attention that comes your way. Because why not? And even if you fall into this category, know that being single is as beautiful as being in a relationship. And if you're brave enough to do that - you're a rockstar!
So, no matter what category you fall under, this feeling is a part of you and so you have to embrace it. But you know what they say - with the right guy, you won't have to think twice. And maybe the right time and right relationship is just around the corner for you. Good luck, braveheart!