Other than the commitment and love, long-term relationships can change you as a person - and hopefully for the better. You get used to some things, you ignore some and you whack your brains over the others. We can’t really put a number to how many years should it take for you to call your relationship an LTR, but five years plus should ideally make the cut. Your partner plays a significant role in affecting your sensibilities and making you the person you are today. Here are 10 things nobody tells you about being in a long-term relationship!
It really is. It’s not a big deal if you get a little flirty with someone else! When you’re in a long-term relationship, you and your partner both know that it’s okay to feel attracted to someone else for a whimsical moment. This doesn’t mean you will cheat on him or he will, on you. It simply implies that you enjoy when someone else gives you that extra attention!
There will be all kinds of years - the one where your sex life will hit the roof, sometimes there will be dry spells and even times when there is more cuddling and spooning than hot sex. As you both become more comfortable with each other’s bodies, appearances, and even habits, the way you have sex and the number of times you have sex with each other also changes.
You learn that forgiving each other is extremely important to nurture your relationship and there’s no better way to do it than to just forgive and forget. Bringing up past mistakes into your fights will only do more harm than good. You learn to gulp some, you learn to forget some and you also learn to move onâ€¦ from the situation, not the person!
Read this book about The Art Of Forgiving and why it is so important for living a great life! (Rs 721)
The way he would throw his socks off the bed, how he would totally kick the blanket off him and you while you are fast asleepâ€¦ and a dozen more things! Those little things you once used to love will now irritate the hell out of you! You will ask him to change some of those habits and also ease out about the others!
When you’re in a long-term relationship, it’s okay to feel vulnerable. You both love each other too passionately and it consumes you and that’s okay! But whatever insecurities you might be facing, talk it out with him and it’ll help you feel better in no time.
When you no longer have to tell nice things about his Spongebob shorts or a friend or even his relatives. It takes a great level of understanding and trust to be able to be painstakingly honest with one another. To be free of the sugar coating and just show your raw, unaltered self is the best things about a long-standing relationship.
You can pee and he can shave. We know it sounds gross, but you won’t geddit till you do it. It takes a while for a couple to get used to each others early morning ‘chores’ and do them together! Although, we’d still keep this one for a once in awhile!
Even if you don’t end up sharing the bathroom, you can always buy matching toothbrushes (Rs 441) that come in a set, right?
You can sleep angry and you can fight him and not say sorry or console him. The same goes the other way round. When you’re in a secure relationship, sometimes, arguments last longer than a day. It’s quite normal and you don’t have to feel weird about it.
You can call your girlfriends home and do a sleepover or totally take that solo trip you’ve wanted to without him feeling bad about it. He can totally take time off and do a gaming night with his friends too! It’s good to have your space and sometimes demand it too.
Oh, you can totally take that solo trip after getting married too! This book (Rs 1,022) will tell you why having your own set of interests is so very important too!
Because no matter what, this doesn’t change. No number of years, dates, days and nights, fights or holidays will make you forget this one fundamental fact. Saying ‘ I love you’ to him still gives you that warm, fuzzy feeling inside every time!