Love knows no boundaries, and it truly reflects in Ramolaa and Tom’s beautiful relationship. Ramolaa is an Indian who moved to the USA for further studies, but little did she know that her life would take such a beautiful turn. After much prodding from her friends, she signed up on a dating app and what happened after is nothing less than a whimsical fairytale. Read on to find out more from Ramolaa herself...
I went to college in a small town in the United States and because of the limited population, meeting like-minded people became quite a challenging affair. That is when my friend suggested a dating app that I could sign up for, to meet new people. To be honest, I was a bit hesitant. But I secretly liked the idea of it and readily gave it a shot. I remember coming across a guy’s profile, while browsing the app. Tom had a ‘pink’ shirt on and looked quite adorable too. Now I am quite practical, alright! I checked that he lived only a few hours away and conveniently went ahead and dropped him a friendly message. I did not give it much thought after, and continued with my daily chores, but to my utter surprise, he replied! We had a very friendly chat which surprisingly graduated to a 5-hour long chat session. To be honest, I couldn’t contain my excitement and the flush of emotions that were running through my mind. He seemed too good to be true, and at one moment, I even thought of it as some sort of a scam... but I trusted my gut and continued to chat with him regularly. As time went by, I realized how comfortable I was around Tom and just how happy he made me feel. We exchanged numbers after, and would regularly indulge in hour long conversations!
I will always cherish that chilly April evening when his car pulled into the driveway, and he gleefully knocked on my apartment door to pick me up for our first ever date. There he was, smiling from cheek to cheek as he saw me. Needless to say, we hit it off on our first date, and the rest, as they say, is history!
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The more I hung out with Tom, the more I realized that he was unlike any person I had ever met. He was truly selfless, loyal, and extremely respectful towards me. He always made me smile, and somehow just knew about the things that made me happy. And I knew I had strong feelings for him too. The more we met and the more we hung out, these feelings continued to grow stronger. However, the moment when I knew ‘he was the one for me’ was when he made a 5 and a half hour round trip from his town to mine, just so we could go on a date and spend time together. He continued to do this EVERY SINGLE WEEKEND, until I graduated. I had always wanted someone who loved me for who I was, and this man not only loved me dearly, but went way above and beyond.
Once we realized how we both felt towards each other, we seriously started talking about marriage. We knew that our backgrounds were different. That he was from the States, and I was born in India. That he was a Caucasian, and I, a South Asian. Our fields of work were different too, but it is the love and respect for each other that blurred all differences. To an outsider these are significant differences, but to us these are the same things that brought us together. Knowing that we have these differences makes us stronger and more aware of how unique our relationship is!
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I had met and got to know Tom’s family quite well during this time, but my family was yet to meet him. Eventually after a series of chats and skype calls, Tom asked my father for my hand in marriage, and both my parents agreed! Since most of my friends are settled in different countries and my family is based in India, we planned on an intimate engagement. To my surprise, a few days after thanksgiving in 2015, Tom got down on his knees while we were having dinner, and asked me to marry him. And obviously, I said YES!
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When you have two people from completely different backgrounds, you realize that there is no ‘one size fits all’ formula of planning a wedding. After much thought, Tom and I agreed that our wedding would be a small, intimate affair, celebrated amongst close friends and family. We got married in a small church in Iowa that Tom’s family had been attending for decades. We booked a cozy venue that would fit our modest guest list of 80 people. Everyone seemed to have a great time, and I thoroughly enjoyed our wedding day, because we were able to truly enjoy it ourselves.
Fast forward to a year later, and we are about a month away from our first wedding anniversary! This past year has been an absolute blessing and I have enjoyed every moment of it. Looking back, I knew our relationship was different from the start. But we have always supported each other and are best friends first, which makes our love grow stronger each passing day. Don’t get me wrong, we do have our share of up’s and downs’ like any married couple, but at the end of the day, we love each other and that’s what matters the most!