When it comes to taking a step forward in a relationship, most of us often want men to take the lead, right? And so, instead of saying things directly, we want our guys to pick up on our hints and initiate a hug, a kiss or even holding our hands. We found a few answers on Quora about how to let guys know when to take the lead. The fun part is that all of these answers are by men. YES! Because who better to tell us how to let guys know when we’re ready to get intimate – than guys themselves?
1. ‘Cuddle up with him. Cuddling lets him know that you like physical contact’ – Alright, then, we’ll get right on that!
a. Break the touch barrier if you haven’t already. Touch his elbow, hold hands, brush his hair out of his face or gently put a hand on his knee. Tearing down this barrier will help the both of you get past some of the hang-ups that you may have about physical contact.
b. Cuddle up with him. Cuddling lets him know that you like physical contact, and that you are really comfortable with him. It is one of the biggest clues you can give him–and cuddling often leads to kissing.
c. Work on your pucker. Getting your guy’s full attention on your lips will make the idea of kissing you unavoidable. A classic approach is to bite your lip gently while looking at him.
d. Flirt with your eyes. Eye contact is a big part of clueing your guy in on the fact that you want to be kissed. Look him in the eyes and smile gently.
e. Give him some serious clues when you are saying goodbye. If you are hoping for a good night kiss, this is particularly important. When you are saying goodbye, hug him close and kiss him on the cheek. After kissing him on the cheek, look into his eyes. Even if he doesn’t kiss you right then, you will have shown him that you are perfectly fine with kissing and physical contact.
2. ‘You don’t tell him anything. You smile, take his hand and walk with him…’ – Well, that sounds easy!
Adam Taha answers on Quora: Most men avoid leading due to fear of rejection. Most guys try to make it all perfect, making sure everything is right and wait….wait….wait due to fear of rejection. If he cannot lead, then unfortunately, you’re going to be the one who has to lead. You don’t tell him anything. You smile, take his hand and walk with him. You stop and embrace him, hug him. You lean back and smile, look in his eyes and kiss him. He’ll get the message.
3. ‘Don’t rush, let it happen naturally.’ – Sounds like good advice!
Anonymous answers on Quora: So, we’d been going out for a few months, known each other for over a year. Felt love growing for each other. Yet did not get physical, didn’t even touch each other. It was all intellectual at the start.
One fine day in a play, she asks me like Beatles, ‘I want to hold your hand’. I let her. And it was magical. I spent that evening and night, looking foolishly at my hand.
A few months later, she wasn’t well, I was visiting her. We sat next to each other and she slid her head on my shoulder and rested. I felt an urge to hold her in place so that she’s comfortable. She was waiting all along to extend her arms and hug me. It lasted for 3 hours. One of the best experiences in life, hugging someone you truly love.
So, physical love is beautiful when you both are in a certain emotional space. Don’t rush, let it happen naturally. And above all, cherish it. Love is beautiful.
4. ‘I understood my girlfriend wanted me to hold her hand because she used to try to touch my hand walking next to me.’ – Take note, ladies!
Anonymous answers on Quora: I understood my girlfriend wanted me to hold her hand because she used to make her hand free of any item to hold, and try to touch my hand walking next to me. Give him such signs.
5. ‘Let him know it’s okay by telling him it’s okay.’ – Alright, alright, we get it!
Franklin Veaux answers on Quora: Cool! It’s awesome that your boyfriend waits for your consent before doing things with you. Go to him! Let him know it’s okay by telling him it’s okay. It’s that simple.
You can read the full thread here on Quora.
Hope you got your answer girls!
