Having fiery chemistry with your partner can be a heady feeling and make you feel like the relationship is the one. But concentrating on chemistry alone can prove to be disastrous. Here are a few things to look for in a relationship, other than chemistry, that’ll prove that you’re both in it for the long haul.
1. Respect for each other
It’s amazing that you get along really well but ask yourself if both of you truly respect each other. When there is solid respect in the relationship, both partners feel loved and appreciated for who they are.
2. Easy communication
Communication is a big driving force in relationships. Make sure you’re in a relationship where you can have open and honest conversations easily. How well you resolve conflicts also speaks volumes about the relationship. You should be able to talk about controversial things without being undermined or ridiculed.
3. Sense of humour
Humour is vital to relationships. Laughing together makes for better conversations and a fun relationship. This helps in retaining the magic of the relationship over time.
4. Common values
If you share core values, everything else can be worked on. On the flip side, life will be a constant struggle if you differ on basic things like principles. Life is challenging sometimes, and it is important that your partner has a similar outlook towards life so that you can take on obstacles as a team.
5. Pick your battles
It is imperative in a relationship that you both pick your battles. Both of you need to decide your hard and soft limits. Things will turn sour really fast if you both end up fighting over even the little things.
6. Honesty and loyalty
A transparent relationship is a stable relationship. Lies will undermine the very foundation of your relationship. Also, it is very important to have each other’s back at all times. Cheating is a huge no-no!
7. Support system
You both need to be supportive of each other, be it career goals or life choices. It is very important that both of you understand where the other one is coming from and support them in their struggles.
8. Kindness and compassion
Every person needs a partner who is kind to them and to the world. How they react to minor inconveniences speaks volumes about how they’ll react to bigger issues. Also, a compassionate partner will always understand your struggles and help you through them.
9. A fun friendship
Rahul was right when he said ‘pyaar dosti hai’ in Kuch Kuch Hota Hai. Both of you need to be friends because trust and loyalty naturally follow friendship. Any relationship that has these elements will grow and mature with time.
We cannot stress enough on the importance of compromise in a relationship. Many people in relationships won’t see eye to eye on the majority of issues, but that’s okay as long as they are both ready to figure out a solution that works for both of them.
Published on Apr 30, 2017