Have you ever come across someone and thought ‘This person seems nice’, even though you don’t really know them? Also, have you come across someone and thought ‘I would rather not cross their path again’? So what sets these two people apart? There is definitely something that makes the first person more likeable than the second. If you look closely you will realize, the reason might be their body language. Our brain associates certain body postures, habits and mannerisms with specific qualities. So ladies, here are a few body language tricks to make people like you, that you should definitely have up your sleeve!
Read here easy-to-implement body language tips for making a great impression and boosting your confidence.
When someone approaches you, pivot your whole body (and not just your head) so that you face them completely. Look at them while they talk and make them feel wanted. This shows that you are interested in interacting with them. It also instantly makes you more approachable and easy to talk to.
An open stance is welcoming and makes you look more approachable. Crossing your arms or sitting with your legs crossed when interacting with someone are indicators of a closed stance. So, let your body loose and rest your hands on an armrest, a table or simply your lap. May not seem like much, but it really makes a difference.
If you are talking to someone, give them your full attention. Shuffling your feet, fidgeting with something you have in your hand, biting your nails, checking your phone or constantly checking the time shows disinterest. The person talking to you will end up feeling unwanted and unheard. So limit the fidget, maybe?
Smiling automatically sparks a positive vibe. So, when greeting someone, greet them with the smile. In the course of your conversation smile once in a while too. It will show that you are listening and are also enjoying the conversation. People instantly take a liking to people who smile. Also, this makes you look like a pleasant person, a vibe people really like.
When greeting or conversing with someone, be loud and clear. You do not have to yell but make sure you are not mumbling. Mumbling makes you come across as either overly shy or uncomfortable. Also, it makes you look underconfident. And underconfidence takes away a lot from your personality.
Men, especially, are sensitive to handshakes. A limp or half-hearted handshake will instantly cost you points, whereas a steady yet gentle handshake radiates confidence and willingness. A firm handshake makes a great impression and shows that you’re confident about yourself. Don’t squeeze too hard, though!
Whether you are sitting or standing, maintain a tall posture. Let yourself loose, don’t be too stiff but don’t be leaning on the table either. Stand tall and don’t be slouchy. A good posture adds to your overall personality. An upright body posture shows interest and willingness to communicate and makes you instantly likeable!
You can tell whether or not someone is genuinely interested in talking to you just by noticing their eye movement. When someone is talking to you or is even listening to something you are talking about, make good eye contact. It exudes confidence and sends out a very positive vibe. But make sure to not overdo it and intimidate the person in front of you. This makes it hard for them to strike a conversation with you.
When you walk into the room, walk in like you deserve to be there. A walk that oozes confidence is what makes you impressionable and charming. Confidence is more attractive than looks, on any given day. Walk tall, take medium strides and smile. Well begun is half done! You’ll look attractive to everyone in the room and well, that was the plan, wasn’t it?
Most people don’t realise that their hands communicate as much as their words. Keeping your hands crossed or too upright can come across as arrogant. Too much movement of the hands can be very distracting and take away from what you’re talking about. One should avoid keep touching their face or playing with their hair. This is a sign of underconfidence. Restrict the hand movement and it’ll add to your charm.
When you genuinely compliment someone, not only do you make them feel good about themselves but also make them comfortable around you. This gives you brownie points and of course, gravitates people around you towards you. But make sure to not overdo it. This will make you come across as someone creepy or even fake.
Everyone loves someone who exudes positive vibes. After all, positivity is contagious. Steer clear of whining, complaining or creating fuss out of things. And more importantly, don’t say mean things or make them uncomfortable around you. Have a positive outlook towards life and spread good vibes. It’ll make you attractive in an unexpected way.
If you’re living a life that you love and doing things that make you happy, your vibe will automatically radiate excitement making people more interested in talking to you. Whether you’re an avid reader, a travel junkie or an adventure lover, follow your passions. Internal happiness reflects on the outside too. It makes your face glow and eventually attracts people towards you.
You must take pride in your appearance. Take care of your hygiene, eat healthy, work out and maintain your lifestyle well. A high self-esteem shows in the way you communicate. You’ll develop a sense of style which becomes a great outlet for self-expression. Conducting yourself well leaves a great impression.
We don’t mean you must get inappropriately get touchy with the person you’re talking to or lean on to them but leaning slightly towards them makes them know that you’re interested in talking to them and have their full attention. Leaning slightly also conveys that you’re trying to connect better with the person. This, in turn, makes them attracted towards you. Also, makes sure to not lean on the wall or other objects next to you. It looks disrespectful and makes them feel you’re disinterested or distracted.
In order to keep someone interested in talking to you or hang out with you, you must make them feel warm. Don’t act too pricey or throw attitude at them. Don’t make them feel unwanted or that they’re pushing when you’re not interested to talk to them. Be humble and they’ll automatically find you pleasant and attractive. This will also make them feel that you’re friendly and approachable.
Have you ever wondered what keeps a conversation going? Similarities. We tend to get attracted to people who share similar thoughts, ideas and behaviour. While talking, if you absorb their mannerisms, moves, gestures and tone of voice, you’ll notice that they’ll start enjoying the conversation even more.
The way you greet someone says a lot about your personality. If you’re underconfident, you’ll automatically put off the person in front of you. But if you smile and greet them well, it attracts them to hold a conversation with you. The tone of your “Hey,” “Hello” or “Hi” sets the tone of the entire conversation that takes places post the salutation.
The gestures you make to make people seem like you’re listening to them and interested to know what they’re talking about is what makes them attracted towards you. Nod your head, ask questions, give your inputs and focus on what the person in front of you is talking about. The more you listen, more number of people will want to be around you.
Would you like someone who keeps rolling their eyes or raising their eyebrows? No, right? Well, the same rule applies to you too. Your face coveys faster than your tongue. Smirking too often or making a resting b*tch face can put them off. The person you’re talking to can deduce a lot about you by looking at the way your expressions change during the course of a conversation. If you smile and react genuinely, they’ll find you attractive and want to know more about you and what you’re trying to say.
Giving high fives or patting someone’s back if you agree with them or appreciate their comment is a good move. But getting too touchy by rubbing someone’s hands or hugging them too tight when they’re not comfortable with it can turn things down for you. Know when to subtly get close to someone but make sure to not make them cringe by getting too close.
The first impression is the last impression, they say. And it definitely is true. The first 30 seconds of your conversation is all you have to keep someone glued to you. Make it count. Be interesting, look confident and talk nicely. Make an impact, talk about something that shows your passion and would also excite them.
It’s confusing if your face and body convey different things. Make sure that there’s tandem between what your facial expressions convey and how your stance is. Else, you’ll end up looking underconfident, unpleasant and often disinterested.
The way you sit after you walk in a room full of people says a lot about the kind of person you are. If you sit too casually, you come across as arrogant and disinterested and if you sit too upright then you might come across as rigid and reserved. Try to sit properly by crossing your legs. Be comfortable so that you look happy and thus attract people toward you.
The way you say goodbye to someone will stay with them for quite some time. So instead of saying ‘bye’ and waving, go ahead and shake their hand and say something like, ‘It was really nice meeting you’. A pleasant goodbye greeting will go a long way in making people like you.
Often you notice people around you walking fast, shaking their feet, playing with their hair or checking the time. Ever wondered what these body language gestures mean? We’re here to help you read these the next time you notice them. Read on to know the exact meaning behind these gestures.
1. Body Language Gesture - Brisk walk
What Does It Mean - Confidence
2. Body Language Gesture - Arms crossed on the chest
What Does It Mean - Defensive, careful
3. Body Language Gesture - Kicking the foot against the table
What Does It Mean - Restlessness, boredom, disinterest
4. Body Language Gesture - Rubbing the nose
What Does It Mean - Hiding something, cooking up stories, possibly lying
5. Body Language Gesture - Hands clasped behind the back
What Does It Mean - Anger, frustration, irritation, impatience
6. Body Language Gesture - Rubbing hands
What Does It Mean - Expecting an answer, anticipation
7. Body Language Gesture - Open palms
What Does It Mean - Sincerity, keenness to talk, genuineness
8. Body Language Gesture - Playing with hair
What Does It Mean - Underconfidence, self-doubt, insecurity
9. Body Language Gesture - Tilting the head
What Does It Mean - Interest in talking to you, willing to know more
10. Body Language Gesture - Turning away the face
What Does It Mean - Disbelief, ashamed, embarrassed
11. Body Language Gesture - Stroking chain
What Does It Mean - Trying to make a decision, thinking hard
12. Body Language Gesture - Biting the nails
What Does It Mean - Nervousness, frightened
13. Body Language Gesture - Raising eyebrows
What Does It Mean - Being judgemental, disbelief, disagreeing with you
14. Body Language Gesture - Sitting with legs crossed
What Does It Mean - Confident, ready to listen, trying to be authoritative
15. Body Language Gesture - Locked ankles
What Does It Mean - Apprehension
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This story was updated in March 2019.