10 Relationship Lessons Our FAV Bollywood Movies Gave Us!
Lifestyle Writer & Copy Editor
Through the course of your relationship, a lot of relationship lessons will come your way. Some will come easy and others you will end up learning the hard way. Here are a few you can learn from Bollywood movies instead of first hand experiences!
1. Every relationship requires some effort - challenges only make you stronger.
Krish (Arjun Kapoor) and Ananya (Alia Bhatt) in 2 States, had to do a fair bit of work to convince each other’s parents, right? All because they knew that their marriage would never work out unless both of the families got along. Sure, they had a tough time, but that only made them stronger!
2. You need to be your partner’s strongest support.
Mary Kom’s (Priyanka Chopra) husband Onler (Darshan Kumaar) showed what it really means to support your partner at every step. He helped her train and became her greatest pillar of strength, thereby proving that love is about lifting each other up and helping each other achieve their dreams.
3. You constantly learn from each other, and it will help you grow as a person.
While Abhay(Imran Khan) learns to take things a little easy and finally stumbles upon his real passion (cooking), Alia (Deepika Padukone) learns that she cannot be too immersed in her own life and ignore her partner altogether. The story of Break Ke Baad showed us that we have much to learn from each other and though there may be disagreements, you can still work it out in the end.
4. Love does not always look like the ‘perfect’ picture you imagined, but if you embrace it in its true form, it just may be even more beautiful.
To the world, Jhilmil(Priyanka Chopra) and Barfi(Ranbir Kapoor) may be misfits, but to each other they symbolized love and comfort. Their relationship taught us that true love isn’t about beauty or social appropriateness, and that it should never be judged on face value. Your fairytale may not be as fancy as the ones depicted in the movies but it’s unique and magical in its own way!
5. It is important to be with someone who not only loves you, but respects you and makes you happy.
In the movie Jab We Met, when Geet(Kareena Kapoor) has to pick between Anshuman (her ex-boyfriend played by Tarun Arora) and Aditya (Shahid Kapoor), she sides with the latter. With this decision, she taught us that while it is a good thing to be loyal, it is never a good idea to be with someone who makes you feel bad about the way you are and does not respect your emotions.
6. Love is not about grand gestures, it’s more about small gestures and sharing your life with someone.
When your partner is away you will seldom miss the grand party he threw for your birthday. But you will miss the smaller things you did together. Your morning chai, your long walks and the way he used to sit with you and watch TV while you read a book... Wake Up Sid taught us this lesson via Sid (Ranbir Kapoor) and Aisha(Konkona Sen Sharma), who never realize their love for each other, and how much they miss the little things about each other till they spend time apart.
7. A relationship can survive all odds, provided you are honest.
In the movie Kapoor and Sons, Tia (Alia Bhatt) falls for Arjun (Sidharth Malhotra). But before they could go anywhere with it she confesses to having kissed his brother Rahul(Fawad Khan). Although he does get mad at her for a while, ultimately all the pieces fall into place and their relationships survives the hiccup. Trust and honesty are cornerstones of any relationship, and it is important to keep them rock solid.
8. There may be times when your love will be tested, don’t be afraid to fight for it.
Love is not roses and rainbows all the time, it can be hard, but giving up on each other is not the solution. Through the story of Happy Bhaag Jaegi, Happy (Diana Penty) and Guddu (Ali Faizal) battle the world to make their relationship work. And ever so subtly, and in good humour, they teach us to be strong enough to fight for the ones we love.
9. Love is about accepting each other, just the way you are.
Sandhya (Bhumi Pednekar) is nothing like Prem (Ayushmann Khurrana) imagined his life partner to be. But with time he begins to see deeper into her, as a person, which is when he understands the true meaning of love and marriage. Dum laga ke Haisha was about learning that everyone is made up of equal parts perfect and flawed and love is about embracing both.
10. It is important to move on.
When Avi (Aditya Roy Kapoor) did not reciprocate Aditi’s love (Kalki Koechlin) in Yeh Jawani Hai Deewani, she moved on. Sure, it may have been difficult, but she taught us that you can't make someone love you just by loving them. Sometimes, you have to let go. So that you can find your true happiness!