10 Things To Learn When Everyone Is Getting Married!

10 Things To Learn When Everyone Is Getting Married!
If you are a twenty-something, single girl living in India, chances are that you have been asked the dreaded, ‘Beta, when are you getting married?’ question more than once. As if that wasn’t exasperating enough, you have suddenly found yourself being surrounded by either the soon-to-be engaged or the ‘happily married’ couples. They could be your colleagues, or your cousins, or even your best friends! And through all of this, you've definitely realized there are some things to learn while everyone else is getting married… Here are a few of them!

1. Get to know yourself better...

Read. Travel. Volunteer. Get to know about who you are as a person. Remember what they say about learning to love yourself before you can love anyone else? It's totally true!

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2. Make things happen...

And do them on your own. Years of societal conditioning has brainwashed us into thinking that we can have a successful career or take a trip around the world only with our significant other by our side. Well, you can and you totally should make things happen for you. It is great to have someone to share these experiences with, sure, but just because you don’t have an S.O., it doesn’t mean that you don’t get to enjoy these experiences on your own.

3. People change, no matter what they say

Marriage changes people. That is the harsh truth. Your married friends will have a whole new set of responsibilities to deal with and may not *always* have time for you. With that being said, you can rest assured that when you really need them, they will be there for you, like they have been there before.

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4. Come up with your definition of a ‘family’

No, not necessarily the stereotypical one with a husband and two kids, a boy and a girl. But what you envision as a family. It could be the one with you and your parents, it could the one with you and 5 dogs… Everyone has different hopes and dreams and a husband doesn't necessarily have to be a part of your bigger picture!

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5. Learn from your married friends

A lot of us are in love with the idea of getting married... But there is a whole new world that will await you once you’re done preening in that Sabyasachi lehenga. It takes a lot of effort to make a marriage work. And here’s where your married friends will come to your aid. Talk to them about all your concerns about marriage and see if you are ready to make that level of commitment just yet. And it's totally okay if you aren't!

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6. Enjoy being alone

Being alone is in no way the same as being lonely. When you learn how to be alone, you stop depending on someone else to make you happy, because you figure that out on your own. You learn that a life partner won't make you happy per se... But that it would just be nice to share your happiness with them.

7. Marriage does not complete you

Nobody can ever complete you, at least not in the way they show in Bollywood movies. It is your relationship with yourself that truly completes you. Marrying someone who loves all of you? Now, that's something you can look forward to!

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8. Realistic expectations of ‘The One’

Remember that long list of ‘must-have’ qualities that your would-be husband had to have for you to marry him? Well, you are going to revise that list big time, with things such as compatibility, mutual respect and similar long-term goals taking precedence over him having six-pack abs.

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9. This is the most freedom that you’ll ever have

With no husband, kids or in-laws to take care of, you’re only going to be responsible for yourself. Use this freedom to be fabulous and do everything you ever wanted to do!

9 things to learn while everyone else is getting married

10. Don’t settle

Yes, it is going to be difficult to be the only one sitting at the singles’ table when all your friends are married. But that is no reason for you to take the plunge! Get married only because you want to get married to the person you want to get married to. And certainly not because your ‘biological clock’ is ticking.

And remember, your relationship status doesn’t get to define your self-worth!

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