Anger can bring out the worst in most of us - even if we're super careful. And especially when we're angry with that special someone in our lives… Because you fight the most with the ones you love the most, right? Even so, the next time you find yourself feeling really mad at him, go ahead and try these ways to reset your anger! Trust us, they really do help!
1. Keep your ego on the back burner
Easier said than done because it doesn't matter if it was a small fight or a major hurt but if something has upset you, it has, in fact, upset your ego too. You should stop thinking along the lines of "How could he do this to me?" and actually address the issue of how you reached this certain point in your relationship and what can be done to move forward.
2. No such thing as revenge
Fed on a heavy dose of Bollywood, badla or revenge is the first thing that comes to mind when you are angry with your partner. But wait a minute, what are you? Lady Ghajini? Arre, jaane bhi do yaaro! Bade bade shehron mein aisi chhoti chhoti baatein hoti rehti hai!
Also read: How To Stay Calm & Have Fewer Fights With Him!
3. Take your time, breathe
We mean a few days - not a month or even more! It won't be worth it, babe. Seriously! Relax your mind, let yourself cool off and don't be consumed with your own hurt in the interim.
4. Handle negative emotions carefully
Don't say things you'll regret later. Delay the discussion if required but don't blab things you've only thought of. We know that you hate some of his (completely unrelated to the fight) habits, but now is not the time to tell him that.
5. Let him cool off too
Just because you have calmed down, doesn't mean he has as well. You can't force the chill-pill down his throat. As partners, you need to respect each other's cooling off period.
6. Discuss the problem
Now that you've patched up and are back to being bumchums, broach the "problem" topic with utmost care. Keeping issues unresolved will make them come back and haunt you again at a later time!
7. Remember that your relationship is dear to you
Look at the bigger picture. No, seriously, you can't be ending your relationship because he forgot to give you a wake up call or because you didn't leave him some of the pizza. Right?
8. Be the first to forgive
Trust us, some trivial matters will not matter 10 days down the line and 10 years later, you may not even have any memory of it. Be the one with a golden, blingy heart. Learn to forgive - it’s okay, chalta hai!
Also read: 10 Things You Need To Be Honest With Him About (No Matter What)
9. Make a rule to never sleep on a fight
Simple! And that way no one broods over the fight and the pain they're feeling for longer than necessary.
10. If he is still angry…
Order his favourite food and sit down in front of him to eat. Slurp, make noise, sound stupid and then…watch him melt, ladies! (Add a puppy face if he's really mad!)
Published on Sep 25, 2016