A major portion of my childhood was spent watching Disney movies. I remember, when I was a little girl, I would make my mum read my favourite fairytales over and over again till I knew them by heart. At times, I think that these fairytales and Disney movies played a huge role in shaping me up as a person as far as love is concerned. They made me believe in true love and planted those high hopes about love in my heart!
During my late teens, my tale of true love began when I met this guy - who’s now my boyfriend from the past five years. No, it wasn’t love at first sight - in fact, we didn’t like each other much when we met for the first time at the annual fest of SRCC. He thought I was conceited and I found him a bit too stern. But eventually, during the following few months, things fell in place and our relationship began. Trust me when I say that it was better than any of the fairytales I’ve ever read or watched. It was the right amount of sugar and the right amount of spice, and it was indeed all things nice - till I got to know that his applications have been accepted and he’d soon be moving to the US to pursue his MS. All my friends thought that this was going to be the end of my romance with him. Even our parents and siblings tried to console both of us from time to time, but we assured them that we’re going to be fine and it’s just a matter of a few years.
To be honest, I was quite sad, but just a little reassurance from him chased away my sadness. We both knew that it was going to be tough but we knew we would get through it.
He left for the States and I admit that it was tougher than either of us had imagined - it still is. Our life got divided into two time zones and there began the struggle to sort our schedules so that we could get the time to talk to each other. No matter how busy we both were in our day to day lives, we always made it a point to talk to each other as often as we could. We never allowed geographical distance to make our love any less magical than it had always been.
It has been this way for the past three years and we meet when he comes to India towards the end of every year. It might sound sad but trust me it isn’t - in fact, it’s getting better and better with time. And it kind of amuses me to see that “I-just-can’t-believe-it kind” of look on people’s face when they get to know that he and I are still together.
Somehow, it bothers me when I see couples falling apart because they cannot cope up with the distance. It makes me think that this happens mostly because people have stopped believing in true love. Call me old-school, but I really cannot relate to the hook-up culture as I personally feel that, to a certain extent, it is discouraging people to believe in that truest and the purest form of love that really does exist. I might be wrong but this is how I feel about it.
I believe that everything begins to fall in place if you want to be with a person solely because of love rather than to fill the emptiness in your life. I want people to realize that they deserve better and they should just wait for the right person. Pardon me if I’m sounding a tad bit judgemental here, but I really want them to know that the kind of love, happiness and fulfilment that they’re searching for will never come from the temporary relationships that they term as “casual dating”. All I have to say is that to get through a long distance relationship people first need to find the true love and the desire to spend the rest of their lives with the person they claim to be in love with.
No doubt long distance relationships are tough, but with the right amount of trust, understanding and love, you can get through it. Believe me ‘coz I’m saying this out of personal experience. And above all, once when you fall in love with the right person, you automatically get the strength and the will to turn the odds in your favour.
So, till the time he finally comes back to India, I’m going to be glad and immensely grateful that there is someone out there who’s sitting miles away from me and believes in true love, just as much as I do.