We see a lot of girls being body shamed on Instagram, Facebook and on other social platforms. But why does a girl’s business becomes everyone else’s? Why can’t people live with the fact that a girl can do whatever she wants to do? For society, it seems that a “thin” girl is ideal and if there’s any deviation, they think it’s okay to comment on her body. It’s our choice if we want to have abs or muscles or tattoos because urmm… It’s our body, and no one else’s and we are supposed to decide how we want to look. Fitness Model Gurbani Judge a.k.a VJ Bani, was being body shamed for having a “masculine” body, she replied through an Instagram post and it’s just KICKASS!
This is what she said…
‘Lifting weights will make you look manly’
‘You’re not a girly girl if you lift weights’, ‘I don’t lift weights because I just want to ‘tone up’’, ‘Girls should only do cardio, lifting is for guys’, ‘So what steroids are you on?’, ‘That’s way too much muscle… For a woman’.
All of the above and so much more…
Image: BaniJ on Instagram
I’ve heard it all. And not once because I actually cared enough to ask, ‘hey, what do *you* think of *my* body?’. I never entered the gym because of what people said I ‘should/ought to/must’ look like. I went in there to get strong, to be active, to be healthy, to sweat, to feel better, and more ME.
I can’t remember the last time the thought of ‘will this be attractive to so and so’ crossed my mind, in relation to myself- let alone to me lifting weight. It doesn’t happen. I love myself so much and that’s all that matters. I am so happy doing what I do.
This is something I’ve gotten better at accepting and allowing day by day. That’s why you will always hear people say ‘it’s not just physical, it’s so much more MENTAL’ because to get to where you want to go, you have to look within and really be true to yourself and know that- YES, this is what I’m about. This is what matters, this puts me in alignment and makes me a more joyful, happy, productive being. And guess what? You’ll end up being inspiring and encouraging, to other people along the path too.
Image: Bani J on Instagram
I don’t go around telling people that they should eat healthier, or lift, or try to lose weight. You do you and i’ll do me. If someone asks for help I will always do what I can, I’ll recognise the quest- but you need to recognise whether the desire really is there in you or not. Because, if your hearts not in it, no matter how much you try- you’ll never get there.
Cold hard honest truth. Just like cold hard iron, work and discipline.
Just wanted to share that with y’all fam…
Woah! That was BANG ON! We totally agree with you, Bani. Let people talk and you go, girl!!
