The "First Night" In An Arranged Marriage... Is It Awkward?!
The idea of having an arranged marriage strikes everyone at least once in a lifetime. You might not even go for an arranged marriage setup, but still, you think about it. Don’t you? And when you do, one of the first questions that pops into your head is “What kind of first night do an arranged marriage couple have? Is it...awkward?!” Well, what’s better than having that question answered by people who’ve been in the situation? Yes! Thanks to Quora, we found some people answering this question from real life experience, and believe us, you all want to know what they’re saying. Read on to know the answers…
1. The one who believes trust is of utmost importance
Gargi Agnes Kujur answers on Quora: Gaining her trust is important. Marriage is a very complicated relationship yet the most beautiful. Emotional attachment is more important than Physical attachment. Apart from being physical, if both are familiar with each other then sure things will be fine. First night is already tiresome because of all the function and stuff but still, they can talk and then sleep cuddling each other. The couple can talk or share incidences or can sleep all together. It might be little awkward but hey, they have to spend rest of their life together.
Anonymous answers on Quora: The thing is, it takes time to get to know your spouse before sleeping with them, you know what I mean. So the first night is more of talking. Maybe have sex after one month of your marriage, when you’re both comfortable.
3. The one who summed it up in two sentences
Siddharth Singh answers on Quora: It all depends on how much time you’ve had between the engagement and the marriage. If you have enough time to get to know each other, it won't get awkward.
Neelam Sogani answers on Quora: I had an arranged marriage and my courtship period lasted for almost 9 months. During that time we talked to each other every day, met each other couple of times (we were living in different cities). In fact during that period we got to know each other very well. The idea of my wedding night made excited and now, I am happily married for the last 9 years with two lovely kids.